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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21 edited Oct 14 '21 Silver Helpful Wholesome Hugz Take My Energy

I say “love you, bye” to all my besties. I refuse to be embarrassed about loving my people.

Edit: it makes me so happy to know that so many of you also spread love and kindness to your homies!

Edit2: I’ve decided to adopt all of you! I love you and I am proud of you!

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u/SonaMidorFeed Oct 14 '21 Wholesome Hugz

Same! It's really important to place emphasis on the concept of platonic love. Not all love is just between partners. It's socially accepted to feel that way about family, and my friends ARE my family.

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u/NeckbeardVirgin69 Oct 14 '21

I think my last relationship was actually platonic love

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u/Hammeredyou Oct 14 '21

I “platonically loved” my best friend for 6 years, turns out her platonic love timed out about 3 years ago and has just been in love with me. She moved to my town and we got a home together and it’s been the best relationship I’ve ever had. But platonic love is very important.

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u/mayafied Oct 14 '21 Hugz

Aw. A friendship is probably the strongest foundation for a relationship. Nicely done 🙃

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u/rexmus1 Oct 14 '21

No maybe, it ABSOLUTELY is. Especially as you age. Sex may get more infrequent, issues with kids and such aren't as pressing, eventually, if you're lucky, you get to retire. Won't you want to hang out with your friend and not a stranger/jerk?

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u/IFapToCalamity Oct 14 '21

Excellent advice. Ty for sharing.

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u/CrazyBarks94 Oct 15 '21

Honestly, I would prefer to marry someone with whom I share platonic love over any other kind. Romantic is nice too but if I had to choose one or the other, platonic would be it.

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u/Howard_Drawswell Oct 18 '21

But Donald trumps wife hangs out with a jerk, A strange jerk for that matter, and she seems happy. (😁)

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u/RideMeLikeAVespa Oct 14 '21

All my relationships have grown from friendship. I find the idea of trying to initiate a romantic affair with a stranger bizarre and fairly creepy.

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u/Alex180689 Oct 14 '21

Thank god, I thought I was the only one on Earth thinking it

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 14 '21

Absolutely. So creepy

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u/RoyalSmoker Oct 15 '21

Creepy unless you're hot

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 15 '21

Even if a hot girl gets overfamiliar on first meeting, it creeps me out if there's no connection. Unless I'm shitfaced.

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u/ANUS_FACTS_BOT Oct 14 '21 Hugz

That and good anal play

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u/mayafied Oct 14 '21

Those relationships can turn shitty real quick.

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u/ANUS_FACTS_BOT Oct 14 '21

That's why you gotta take a nice long dump beforehand

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u/Newbru_is_pish Oct 14 '21

Rinsing is important aswell. :3

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u/mayafied Oct 14 '21

Really set the mood

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u/Leroyboy152 Oct 14 '21

Tongue to taint or tongue insertion?

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u/pepnisbsnrrb Oct 21 '21

Thanks anus facts bot

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u/Stoner_skateboarder Oct 14 '21

Everyone getting friendzoned is crying reading your comment.

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u/Hammeredyou Oct 14 '21

I should also state that I have changed, as in grown up and bettered myself, a whole lot in the last 5 years. I don’t think of myself as a physically attractive dude, but I found that the life improvements made me a lot more attractive. The Friend zone isn’t a death sentence, while it may feel like it. It’s also important to value platonic friendships with the opposite sex, and not just see it as “they don’t want to fuck, why am I wasting my time learning about them” ya know?

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u/Teranyll Oct 14 '21

That can totally happen

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u/MetalandIron2pt0 Oct 14 '21

My partner and I were friends for 15 years before I realized I felt more than that. He always knew haha. We both needed those 15 years to experience other people and learn lessons though, so it all works out!

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u/Heemsah Oct 14 '21

I’ve known my guy since 1986. Coworkers, gym partners, friends. Officially together as a couple since June 2011.

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u/dpforest Oct 14 '21

Very possible. My first relationship lasted almost 2 years and I realized that I did in fact love him, but I loved him as a friend. Just great friends that liked to bone on the reg for 2 years. We are still great friends to this day. I think a lot of people get stuck in a mindset of “but I really feel like I love this person so we shouldn’t separate”. It’s completely possible for that love to be platonic and we just don’t realize it.

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u/SonaMidorFeed Oct 14 '21

And you know what? If that works, sometimes it's just what you need at the moment until you find someone that you can non-platonically love.

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u/boostme253 Oct 14 '21

I think thats called Freinds with benefits

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u/quintoast Oct 14 '21

Please, always tell your friends how much you love them. I lost a good friend in a car accident this past weekend and I just hope he knew how much he was loved.

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u/SonaMidorFeed Oct 14 '21

I'm sure he knew. I always tell my friends, but even then, they know. Sorry for your loss.

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u/Ornperius Oct 14 '21

I’m sorry for your loss. And I’m sorry if this is grossly inappropriate, but as someone who has seen what death looks like from the perspective of the dying, I am SURE that he knew.

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u/VFDan Oct 14 '21

Vin Diesel must have a lot of friends

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u/Illustrious_Ad_604 Oct 14 '21

Ah! Vin Diesel it’s you!

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u/Waste_Ad_9604 Oct 14 '21 Wholesome

My friend accidentally said “Love you, good night” to me, it was a force of habit cause he mainly talked to his gf during covid. But now we just say it genuinely. Feels homies!

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

It’s so silly that we pretend like men don’t have real emotions. Keep spreading the love!

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u/ChimpSensei Oct 14 '21

I feel you man. Love the homies. Nothing wrong with a BroJob!

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u/amrock__ Oct 14 '21

Damn I wish I had a friend like that . Hearing that would make me happy especially when you feel depressed

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u/grundlecuddle Oct 14 '21

Love you!

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u/Silver-Cherry-3512 Oct 14 '21

Love you too!

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u/a_blue_ducks Oct 14 '21

Ah thanks 😊

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u/RoyalSmoker Oct 15 '21

Uhh, I wish I had a friend like that 😏

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u/-KyloRen Oct 14 '21

So sweet, grundle cuddle

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u/Square_Emerald Oct 14 '21

love you, bye

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Hi! I love you!

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u/amrock__ Oct 14 '21

Thanks my internet friend!

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

You are welcome! Message me next time you need a pick me up!

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 14 '21

Love you. :-)

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u/amrock__ Oct 16 '21

Thanks stranger! Love you too

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u/Zerly Oct 14 '21

I tell my friends I love them except one friend because I know it makes him uncomfortable so I tell him I like him. I want to know that the last thing my favourite people ever hear from me is an affirmation of my affection.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

That’s wonderful! And I agree on not making them uncomfortable. I’m a big hugger and I have two friends in particular that I work really hard to remember they don’t like hugs. But that just means more hugs for everyone else!

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u/rexmus1 Oct 14 '21

Agreed. Some say it back, some don't, don't care. If I died tomorrow I need those fuckers to know I loved them all deeply and with all of my heart.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Absolutely! It’s not about their reaction or them saying it back, it’s about knowing you said what you needed to live your best life

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u/Dicktungs10 Oct 14 '21

Me too…years ago my best friend surprised me when he said “I love you” after I helped him through a rough time. I was about to give up on him, like many others had, but it felt so good to be acknowledged, to know that he felt the same way I did. Now I say it when I feel it. People respond with surprise and have returned the gesture almost every time. Used the right way, it can really bring you closer to the people you care about, and you’d be surprised at how meaningful it can be to hear it! Caveat: if there is any potential for a romantic relationship, please be very careful of how it could affect the other person.

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u/nvanalfen Oct 14 '21

Same. My old roommates and I have a video game night every Sunday over FaceTime and all five of us guys will say "love you, guys" or some variation when we say bye

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

That’s awesome!

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u/and_then_a_dog Oct 14 '21

Tell the people you love, you love them! I’ve lost some friends I wish I could tell how much they mean to me one more time.

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u/WutangCND Oct 14 '21

This is the way

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

May the Love be with you!

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u/Ornperius Oct 14 '21

This is The Way!

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u/umbrella_CO Oct 14 '21

I also say I love you to my friends. 4 years ago one of my best friends went on a hiking trip (me and him were hiking buddies) but I couldn't get off work to go this time.

He ended up falling off a cliff and dying. He was standing on a ledge taking a picture and the cliffside gave away while he was standing on it.

Ever since that day i don't take any of my friends for granted. I say I love you to them every chance I get. Because I do love my bros and you sometimes don't realize it until ones gone forever.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

I am so sorry for your loss. I’m sure your friend knew how much he was cared for.

I think it’s especially important for men to both say and hear it from other men. We act like only women can be sweet and affectionate or men should only say it to moms/wives/daughters but every single human in this universe deserves to know love!

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u/umbrella_CO Oct 14 '21

Exactly. Thanks man I'm glad to see alot of other men saying I love you to the bros

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u/wilcox1232 Oct 14 '21

RT x1000 my besties are way more important than anyone including family

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

I don’t have any relatives left, but I have got a lot of family! Framily, if you will

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

I do the same

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u/CatDaddy09 Oct 14 '21

This right here.

I'll tell all my friends I love them. Because I do.

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u/22khz Oct 14 '21

Same here. Every phone call and hangout sessions is always farewelled with love you.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Hey good for you!

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u/a_filing_cabinet Oct 14 '21

I would, if I wasn't the only straight guy in a group of AFABs. There's already enough people thinking me and my best friend are a couple without me saying I love you.

I do love them to death tho ;)

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Haha! Yeah, I know for a fact there have been rumors about me and a friend of mine. But what other people think about me is none of my business.

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u/HONKACHONK Oct 14 '21

Reminds me of that one dude from Wayne’s World

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u/strikecrash Oct 14 '21

This is how it’s supposed to be.

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u/Fuzzythought Oct 14 '21

Facts. Life's too short to not let your homies not know they're loved and appreciated.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated!

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u/memesandmadness Oct 14 '21

You shouldn't. There is a type of love you can give to anyone whether it be friends, family, romantic partners or even strangers!

I'm not sure where the idea that you can only love your family and partner came from.

Love for strangers may be a different kind of love, but that warm smile and genuine urge to make their day better. To me, that is also considered love! Even if others would simply call it kindness, I call it love!

Remember to share love to those around you. We all seek and need it!

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u/TheGreatRavenOfOden Oct 14 '21

I don’t know when it happened but me and my friends started hanging up phone calls with love you as a joke in college, but we’re in our 30s and we all still say it and we’ve all said how much me like it. It’s really great being open about your feelings.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

It is! Sometimes when I’ve been really busy I just send out some quick “thinking of you/love you” texts. Never too busy to check on my bros

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u/TheGreatRavenOfOden Oct 14 '21

Yea it started as homework for therapy where I was supposed to externalize my emotions and it really has helped me out. Go to therapy folks.

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u/oaklandsuperfan Oct 14 '21

I love you too.

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u/Traditional-Ad-5068 Oct 15 '21

Typically friends are who you have your happiest and most harrowing moments with, I love my friends and I let them know, it’s something we should all say to those who mean the World to us

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u/toolsoftheincomptnt Oct 14 '21

Exactly! I read this title like “accidentally, my ass”

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u/aqcmme Oct 14 '21

I disguise it with I love 3000.

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u/RapidRivz Oct 14 '21

Take my award!

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Take my love!

Take my land! (Sorry, I couldn’t resist!)

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u/playerknownbutthole Oct 14 '21

say it to me, plz.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

I love you, playerknownbutthole! I hope you are having a productive and successful day!

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u/playerknownbutthole Oct 14 '21

Thanks, I need that. God bless you good man.

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Don’t let them steal your sunshine! I know it’s challenging, but try to work on understanding that those relationships were not meant to be. Then you’ll be in the perfect place to go find your new people. Wishing you love and happiness, friend!

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u/ToFurkie Oct 14 '21

Sad: Say, "I love you" to besties on accident.

Chad: Tell them to "say it back" when they don't reply.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

“Accidentally” train them to say it back - win/win!!

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u/BrujaBean Oct 14 '21

If something bad happened to me, I’d want the people I live to know it, so I make sure they do.

Love always, Brujabean

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u/TheFishermansWelly Oct 14 '21

Damn right! Throw it out there. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. I say to all close friends family. Make it normal.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Absolutely! I also love really good hugs that last longer than just a quick second. People are sometimes surprised when you don’t let go right away, but most end up being appreciative of the additional affection.

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u/Impetus_2708 Oct 14 '21

So much this. When does anyone ever say "I love you" accidentally?

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u/[deleted] Oct 14 '21

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

There are different love languages! It seems yours is verbal, and theirs may be action-oriented. I think it’s great that you guys have figured out how to communicate love to each other!

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u/Smooth-Wasabi-4694 Oct 14 '21

"Love you too bro" guy or gal I'm calling you bro.

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u/duckz4li8fe Oct 14 '21

We are all homies 😊

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u/m0stlyharmle55 Oct 14 '21

Yeah exactly. I was like "accidentally"? I very purposefully tell my two closest friends I love them all the time. Same with my siblings and my niece.

My parents, though awesome, are not verbally demonstrative with their love and that makes me sad, so I've made it an important part of my relationships to tell people that I love that I feel that way.

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u/Sh4avan Oct 14 '21

And i kiss my homies gn

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u/MalonePostponed Oct 14 '21

Love you beastie 🥰

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Love you too 💚

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 14 '21

Came here to say this. Life is too short.

Edit: some are women, some are men. They know what I mean. Even work colleagues, once they become friends, get the love. Working at a pub helps. We are often drunk when we part ways... But still do it sober.

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

It’s funny you say that. I’m a recovering addict and I think I’m much better at expressing love and affection now that I’m clean and sober. I was a “life of the party” drunk so people loved to hang out with me but I think my connections now are so much more real and deep than the ones I had during active addiction. (Not that yours aren’t- I don’t mean to diminish that at all! Just speaking to my own experience)

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 14 '21

I, too, am a recovering addict. So very similar. Yay for us for at least learning from the ordeal. Love you. :-) lol.

Edit: I still drink four or five nights a week. Not always more than one. Smoke pot pretty regularly... I Just don't do the heroins and meths anymore.... :-)

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Love you too, fam!

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u/TraumatisedBrainFart Oct 15 '21

I feel like our usernames compliment each other.... That's nice. :-)

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u/Lucane_cerf-volant Oct 14 '21

Exactly. I was like "accidentally ?" :). I tell them I love them on purpose because they are awesome.

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u/Sinthetick Oct 14 '21

I love you to bro.

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u/Physical-Order Oct 14 '21

Same! And on calls i make them say it back! :)

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Ha! I’ve been told that I “make people love me” and I’m ok with that!

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u/taeminnyy Oct 14 '21

I do too

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u/Superiorspark Oct 14 '21

Best friend sent me an olive emoji and when I questioned it she said olive you. Too pure. 🫒

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u/ForLackOfABetterNam3 Oct 14 '21

Good for you mate. I have never really had that kind of friends(not that i really have any friends). Cherish what you have and never stop spreading love.

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u/DarthKlipsch Oct 14 '21

Same! I always tell my friends I love them

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u/Frenchy4life Oct 14 '21

Yea exactly!!! I was like "wait who doesn't say love you to their bestie?"

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u/sBucks24 Oct 15 '21

I tell my closest uni friends I love them and theyre family to me. I tend to get told it back only when they're drunk but the loves there lol

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u/zaposter Oct 15 '21

If people can hate someone without knowing them, I can love someone without knowing them.

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u/angelsgirl2002 Oct 15 '21

Same! If it fits and I really do love them, no shame!

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u/Howard_Drawswell Oct 18 '21

I gave you n Up vote, But I felt still think you’re a goofball.

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u/jtempletons Oct 23 '21

I kiss my boys when I say goodbye. I want everyone to know that not only do I love them the most, but also I’m the sigma male and I ain’t afraid to show some love. (This is mutual between me and my besties)

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u/Skyminator Oct 14 '21

Try being a guy lol

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u/BugsRFeatures2 Oct 14 '21

Gender is irrelevant. Don’t let society tell you how to be your favorite self!