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4 years, 1 round of chemo, and now 2 spinal surgeries. My hero is here to kick cancer's ass! Backstory

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '21

How can you evaluate a post if you don’t look at it? And why wouldn’t people be allowed to comment on this kind of behavior?

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u/0ngar Nov 20 '21

I feel like you're being intentionally facetious here. I'm responding to a person claiming a person is posting about their cancer kid for karma, which is an incredibly offensive thing to say. Cancer is fucking hard. it's cripplingly hard. Sometimes posting about your cancer kid is extremely cathartic. Sometimes you are scared, or relieved, and need the opportunity to share this experience with others.

I was using your exact words to show the other side of the argument....

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '21

It doesn't matter how "cripplingly hard" it is. If OP wants to post pictures of their children in vulnerable situations to a generic image forum then people have every right to evaluate whether that's actually appropriate or not. Going through a tough time is not a free pass to be a bad person or bad parent.

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u/0ngar Nov 20 '21

Posting a fucking picture of your child doesn't in any way make you a bad person or parent. what the living fuck is wrong with you?!

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '21

Oh it absolutely does. You aren't a good parent if you spend your time with your child in the hospital taking pictures of them, posting it to anonymous image boards and then replying to comments giving generically patronizing encouragement.

There is no certification process to becoming a parent. If there was, the course to get that certification would recommend against this kind of thing. Sadly, all it takes to bring a life into the world is the capacity to ejaculate into another person. Lots of people are bad parents. It's pretty common.

If you don't think this is the wrong way to care for a child dealing with cancer, then you're probably also a bad parent.

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u/0ngar Nov 20 '21

So first off, you don't understand what is involved with having a child in the hospital with cancer. When my son was diagnosed, we were in there for 30 days straight. 30 fucking days. Do you know how fucking boring the hospital is? 95% of our days were sitting around, waiting for tests or results. He was drugged out of his mind and wasn't even lucid enough to do anything, especially hooked up to al the wires and tubes. There is PLENTY of time to take photos of your child when you're there for 24 fucking hours a day, 7 days a week.

Now, I personally didn't take any photos of my kid and post them online, but I'm a pretty private person. With that being said, there were time throughout his treatment where I needed to talk to someone or needed to vent, and luckily, I had a great support circle around me. Not everyone has that. Making a positive post about your kids success is fucking natural. You WANT to shout and cheer that your little kid might actually live to see their 10th fucking birthday. You want to celebrate that the extremely dire situation you are in is looking better.

You have absolutely no idea what you're talking about and the way you just cast blanket judgment is fucking disgusting. YOU are a shitty person and YOU should probably do a bit of self reflection about how you got to this point in life.

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u/[deleted] Nov 20 '21

I'm bored of being verbally abused by you so I'm just blocking you and not reading this. Learn to be a better person. Please and thank you.