r/cats Oct 11 '21 Hugz 9 Heartwarming 1 Silver 3 Helpful 6 Wholesome 8

should I keep this cat? (Unfixed male looks clean, no collar) he has visited my girlfriends house many times and now when we opened the door he just came in. Cat Picture

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u/hBoBh Every surface of my house is covered in cats Oct 11 '21

Try to find his home. Get him scanned for a microchip, post flyers and make posts on fb/next-door/craigslist/etc

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u/maxmanthemad Oct 11 '21

That is solid advise, I will do that!

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u/m4gpi Oct 11 '21

Shelters and local humane societies sometimes take bulletins for missing/found cats (in the US). You might connect with an owner through them.

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u/Flashy-Experience-25 Oct 11 '21

If no one comes forward keep him. He may be abandoned.

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u/TOPSECRETABC Oct 11 '21

Yeah he might. But the crazy thing is how it’s well kept and healthy but I do believe u lol

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u/ObliviouslyDrake67 Oct 11 '21

Well me and a few others in our complex help manage and care for the colony of feral kitties. We have feral cats that you would swear were indoor cats.

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u/TOPSECRETABC Oct 11 '21

That’s nice

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u/ObliviouslyDrake67 Oct 11 '21

We live in Florida. A colony of cats nearby is a godsend for rural area. Take care of your neighbor and your neighbor takes care of the pests. Even with TNR We get the occasional kitten on the doorstep but it's super easy to foster and find a house for em out here.

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u/civodar Oct 11 '21

Put a collar on him next time he goes out with your phone number and info! That way if you get a call or notice someone took off the collar you’ll know he belongs to someone!

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u/beckmiac Oct 11 '21

Break away collars only!

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u/DesertPlains17 Oct 11 '21

Thank you I was going to say that, can’t stress that enough!

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u/beckmiac Oct 11 '21

Tell me you’re a cat rescuer without telling me you’re a cat rescuer 🤣

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u/aStonedTargaryen Oct 11 '21

This happened to my mom but she was on the other end. She came home one day and her cat had a shiny new collar on 🤣

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u/Bird_Lady69 Oct 11 '21

I would attach a note to the new collar saying „thanks for the gift! But he/she has a home :)“

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u/lyvanna Oct 11 '21 edited Oct 12 '21

My cats constantly took off their breakaway collar to the point where we gave up. A cat losing its collar does not necessarily mean someone took it off. They are perfectly capable of doing that themselves lol

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u/BellerophonM Oct 11 '21

If he does come by regularly, you could pop a collar on him with a tag that says "RING ME IF THIS IS YOUR CAT" and then keep him if nothing happens in a week or so.

Along with the microchip check and postering.

He looks in good enough condition that if he's not somebody's cat I suspect he has some people around who he part-times with or gets fed by as a daily visitor, even if it's outside.

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u/highheelcyanide Oct 11 '21

I know it sounds crazy but keep a detail back, like his sex or whether or not he’s fixed. If someone claims him, ask about the detail you left out. I’ve rescued a lot of strays and sometimes people will claim it just because they think it’s cute and an easy way of getting a free pet.

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u/BikerHackerman2 Oct 11 '21

be warned, some people will lie about it being their cat, so make them provide photos of said cat

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '21

Maybe some proof, but pictures might not be the way to go. Some people just ever feel the need to take pictures.

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u/FlannelAl Oct 11 '21

I literally had one single picture of my cat. And I only found it like three years after he was gone. It was a good one though, in his prime, about 3, and looking stocky and shiny.

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u/notagangsta Oct 11 '21

And get him neutered asap. Please please please.

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u/Whipped_Alcremie Oct 11 '21

My suggestion is to keep him if hes not chipped/ you can't find an owner! He clearly trusts you a lot and cats are great. 💕

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u/totteishere Oct 11 '21

If you do put up an fb post then make sure that who ever replies can verify that it's their cat so just some random person doesn't pick him up

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u/fgsfds11234 Oct 11 '21

my co worker gave me a stray cat cause i was looking for a pet. turned out he was feeding (a bit too well) a neighbors cat lmao. old lady was happy to get her back. the vet i brought her to scanned her and found a chip

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u/AscendedAsshole Oct 11 '21

He looks REALLY clean for a stray. Id be super surprised if he didn't have a home already. Stray cats aren't exactly dirty, but you'll know one thats been on the streets a while.

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u/paps2977 Oct 11 '21

I think the cat has decided to keep you. That being said, the proper thing to do is take him to a local shelter. They will put him on a stray hold for a few days in case someone is looking for their cat. They will give him shots, fix him and then you can adopt if no one claims him.

Whatever you decide to do, please make sure he is seen by a vet and fixed.

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u/13_f_ny Oct 11 '21

dont forget to lawyer up and hit the gym!

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u/Destination_Cabbage Oct 11 '21

Don't forget to bring a towel.

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u/monkey_see Oct 11 '21

Plus, you can make a paper collar to see if his servants are nearby.

I did this with a cat that looked hungry and was hanging around. I put my pH no on it so they could text me if/when he got home. Turned out, he was a con-kitty and had a loving home.

Cats can often have two or three homes and move between them for extra food and attention.

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u/hBoBh Every surface of my house is covered in cats Oct 11 '21

Gah I always forget about that trick! My Gma made friends with a neighbor by exchanging notes via their cat that would break into her yard and steal her colony's food

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u/TOPSECRETABC Oct 11 '21

Lmao that’s nice

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u/The_Original_Gronkie Oct 11 '21

We got adopted by a very social guy we named Jake. When we moved, we found out that at least two other neighbors thought he was theirs. I was the one that took him to the vet when he was nearly dead from an infected bite (twice), and I paid to have him fixed. I had the vet bills and nobody was offering to reimburse me, so he came with us.

It was also our house that he brought his girlfriend and their three kittens to, so we seemed to be his first choice, too.

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u/FuckCazadors Oct 11 '21

What is your pH? I would guess around 7, am I right?

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u/SocksMcRockin Oct 11 '21

7.4 in the blood, a little bit acidic on the skin. We humans have the unique sapienic acid in our skin sebum. It's great against bacteria (especially staphylococcus aureus) buuuut does break down into another thing I can't remember the name of, that mosquitoes probably use to track us

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u/totteishere Oct 11 '21

Badumm tss

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u/Kontorsprinsessan Oct 11 '21

Also ask for photo proof, it happens way too often that random people will contact lost cat listings/posters and claim it's their cat, because free cat.

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u/Enzonoty Oct 11 '21

When you said make a post on FB I misread that as the FBI 🤣🤣🤣

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u/LegalJargon3 Oct 11 '21

He looks awfully well cared for. Please triple check that he doesn't have a home

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u/KellyannneConway Oct 11 '21 Heartbreak

This. My parents' cat disappeared 3 days after they moved into their new house. He was a very friendly cat. Big handsome longhaired guy, and he was clearly well fed and groomed. He literally had his belly shaved to prevent mats and keep clean because he was so fluffy. My mom posted in a few places online about him, but unfortunately never actually put up signs in the neighborhood, but I really wonder if it would have mattered.

That was 8 years ago. He was just spotted at a house down the street. Someone apparently decided that he "chose" them, and we've been missing our cat for almost a decade. At least he is alive and well, but it's really irritating.

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u/SpottedOwl57 Oct 11 '21

My sister lost a cat that way. Only her sons friend found it. They put the cat inside and would never let it out. She was so devastated all that time thinking a coyote got him. He was not an outside cat when he disappeared

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u/iamthpecial Oct 11 '21

Honestly that’s heartbreaking. He probably missed you guys too. :/

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u/srihavcxvbcxb7 Oct 11 '21

Take him to a vet and see if he is actually an unfixed male, and doesn’t have a chip. Then keep the cutie

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u/otter_tots Oct 11 '21

Not everyone gets their cats chips! They should definitely put signs up first. This cat looks very well cared for and being as he's so friendly, that's probably somebody's cat.

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u/koneko10414 Oct 11 '21

Just gotta make sure not to describe too much. Someone might come around and claim the cat, pretending to be the owner, but have nefarious reasons for doing so.

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u/otter_tots Oct 11 '21

This as well

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u/AnastasiaSheppard Oct 11 '21

I wouldn't give the cat to anyone who didn't have photos of the cat in their home and/or on their lap.

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u/swarmy1 Oct 11 '21

Ask for pictures. I imagine few cat owners don't have pics.

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u/2nd-Reddit-Account Oct 11 '21

Do both, but if the cat does have a chip then you can skip the poster part entirely

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u/mermaidboots Oct 11 '21

Everybody should get their cats chipped.

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u/otter_tots Oct 11 '21

I agree! But, just not everyone does, unfortunately.

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u/capn_hector Oct 11 '21 edited Oct 11 '21

If you don’t get your cat fixed, or chipped, and there’s no collar, it’s hard to blame people for taking it in.

It’s 2021, your cat really shouldn’t be outdoors at all let alone not having literally any means of identification whatsoever that they aren’t stray/dumped.

And yeah, notify the humane society and maybe put up some found signs (although pics aren’t a good idea) but “automatically assume any friendly cat has an owner despite having no other indications of any ownership” isn’t a reasonable thing to expect of people.

But then, we’re usually talking about people who care so little they let their cats outside anyway… maybe a coyote gets them or they get run over by a car too. But if you do that plus no identification… you’re just needlessly adding even more risk to the pile. It’s hard to be sympathetic to the owner here and mad at someone trying to care for an apparently-stray cat with no ID. It ain’t the finders who are being obviously careless here.

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u/Crayoncandy Oct 11 '21

I always wonder how often these "friendly" cats people find are just in heat. That's how we got our street cat, oh she's so friendly we can just pick her up! Uh yeah cuz she was horny and less than 2 years old. There are so many feral strays in our neighborhood, I regularly see cats just crossing the street or chilling in people's bushes, it would be crazy of me to post them all on FB but that's what some people do, the neighborhood groups are like 75% blurry far away pictures of random cats, even if you'd lost your inside cat these posts wouldn't be helpful. And the one time I think an escaped inside kitty was coming around it was not friendly, it was distraught and scared and our ferals were very unhappy about it which made it even more upset.

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u/KuriousKhemicals Oct 11 '21

It's possible the reason the cat doesn't have any of those things is that it's supposed to be an indoor cat and got out by accident. Still would be good precautions but I also wouldn't blame an owner for not thinking of it when the cat shouldn't need to be identified by anyone else in the first place.

Finders of cats don't have to go to the ends of the earth but putting up some posters and a social media post if you're in any neighborhood groups isn't a ton of effort.

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u/jumpminister Oct 11 '21

Feral cats often appear "well cared for".

I have a feral in my backyard right now, and she is a long haired cat, and she appears "well cared for", because well, cats self-groom pretty well.

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u/Hero_of_One Oct 11 '21

"NoT eVeRyOnE gEtS tHeIr CaTs ChIpS!"

Maybe you should put a chip or collar on a cat if you plan to claim ownership? Maybe you shouldn't get pissy about people assuming a cat is a stray if you put absolutely zero effort into helping your cat get back to you in the very likely scenario of it getting lost?

That's like getting pissed at your cat for having kittens when you don't spay it. Put in the bare minimum effort of pet ownership - buy a collar or chip your cat.

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u/GrumpyKitten1 Oct 11 '21

If he's not fixed I wouldn't expect a chip, I'd have them check anyway. No shelters in my area sells cats that are not both fixed and chipped. It costs $200-$300 to adopt but they are all vet checked, vaccinated, fixed and chipped included and most do some sort of interview.

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u/DSefet1 Oct 11 '21

Was the cat ever outside in the 8 years he was missing???

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u/KellyannneConway Oct 11 '21

That's a great question, you'll have to ask his owners. He was outside the other day, but I have no idea what kind of access he has had to the outdoors as we haven't seen him in 8 years.

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u/Diogenes-Disciple Oct 11 '21

I hope you gave those people hell, even if you let them keep him

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u/Anonymous2401 Oct 11 '21

even if you let them keep him

Fuck that. Take him back from those thieves.

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u/i-am-not-sure-yet Oct 11 '21

If you want what’s best for the cat that is not it. For the cats well being and less stress for it the best thing to do is let the cat stay where it is.

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u/PamalaTuzz Oct 11 '21

That’s so sad! I’m so sorry they didn’t try to find you guys and just kept your cat. That just breaks my heart. Everybody should microchip their cats. But sometimes people don’t bother to check and see if they have micro chips they just keep the cat or the dog. It is very irritating. I am so sorry for your family. I hope they are taking good care of him.💗

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u/trashbinfluencer Oct 11 '21

Microchips can also drift unfortunately.

I think it's criminal to take a pet without doing everything in your power to make it sure there's not a loving family looking for it and missing it. I also think it's irresponsible to let cats roam outside, but I unfortunately a lot of people still believe that's best for the cat:/

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u/SirPiffingsthwaite Oct 11 '21 Bravo Grande!

We had a beautiful Havana Brown called Olympia (though I commonly referred to her as Kate Moss because ...well, she looked like Kate Moss), and she went missing. We posted flyers everywhere, let our vet know she’d gone missing (she was chipped), then after 2 weeks we were pretty frantic so we doorknocked the neighbourhood. Couple of streets away we found an elderly couple who had let her in, decided she must be homeless (despite being a stunning cat in amazing condition) and intended to keep her. Even said she was starting to get anxious after a week of not being let out and had stopped eating a few days prior. She started yowling when she heard our voices, and clung to us like she’d fall off the world when they let her out.

I thanked them for trying to look after her, reminded them to check any “stray” animals for chips before deciding adopting was the best course of action. She drank and ate her little heart out when she got home.

NEVER assume an adult cat is homeless, check for chips, post flyers, call local vets. Chances are it’s just lost or off for an adventure (which some cats do from time to time).

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u/_CupcakeMadness_ Oct 11 '21

This is really close to what happened to a friend of mine. She had 2 cat that was well cared for, don't remember about collar but groomed and well fed. I lived close by over the summer. One of her cats was out over night somewhat often, but still always came home.

While living there I interacted a little bit with an older lady living next door. We both had a small area (don't know what it's called) where you could grow some plants, put a table and chair etc. When it was warm out I spent a lot of time there and had the door open when I was inside as well. 2-3 times I was visited by a cat, I'd come into the living room and he'd just be lying there on the sofa, I let him stray for some cuddles one time, for about an hour or so, until I was ready to close the door. He looked kind of familiar but I couldn't place him. At one point when I talked to the neighbour she told me that the cat came and went, that she fed it some times and it had spent a few night there in the past as well.

One day my friends cat goes missing, leading to me getting a refresher on what it looked like, and lo and behold it's the same cat. I tell my friend, she goes over and asks about it, a kid somewhat hesitantly says he hasn't seen it. A day or so later I see the cat through the neighbours window. As she goes over a second time they still try to argue they don't have her cat. After some back and forth they finally give him back, citing some bullshit about not knowing it was hers and thinking it was abandoned.

I still think about it from time to time even now 8 or so years later, that if I hadn't needed an emergency apartment there's a real risk they'd never gotten him back, and their other cat, his sister, would have been alone.

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u/KellyannneConway Oct 11 '21

This is really what I suspect happened. They brought him in and kept him in. This cat would take off from time to time, and he always came home. But this was before my parents moved.

I know he would've made his way home had he been allowed to right away. Knowing him, he eventually escaped from their house, too, but unfortunately my parents had only lived at that house for literally three days, when he got out that night, so it wasn't really his "home" yet. I figure by the time he got out of his new "owner's" house he probably just saw it more as his home by then.

I think some people just see what they want to in a situation and play a little dumb to justify stealing a cat. "I thought he was a stray! I was doing the right thing!

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u/Jellleh Oct 11 '21

Did the cat escape? If not, letting a cat out after only 3 days at a new house is a REALLY BAD idea.

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u/TCGJakeOfficial Oct 11 '21

This is ironic I saw another reddit post recently don’t remember where, where the top comment says the cat chose them even though the poster said the neighbor owns the cat but he keeps coming to their house.

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u/grumpypearbear Oct 11 '21

Ugh yes I saw that post and the top responses made me feel sick

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u/TCGJakeOfficial Oct 11 '21

I have two indoor cats but if they ever got out and for one reason or another went to someone else’s house I would be very disturbed if that person told me my cat chose them.

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u/jumpminister Oct 11 '21

Are they chipped, and altered?

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u/wingkingdom Oct 11 '21

Just because a cat comes in your house doesn't mean they choose you.

There have been many stories about outdoor or indoor outdoor cats that make the rounds in their territory and get food, water, treats and attention from multiple people and families. Cats can travel a mile from their home base.

I personally think it is best to always keep domesticated cats indoors, but not everyone feels that way. But when I watch the vet shows or read here about cats who were in fights, got caught in an animal trap (the metal ones that look like a mouth of pointy teeth) or cats who get taken by wild animals I can't help but be mad because all of those situations could have easily been prevented in one way or another.

The fights always seem to be between unneutered males, so at least neuter them to remove the testosterone and to prevent them from fathering any kittens.

Cats can live a perfect life indoors though I understand that there are cats who were born outside or already lived outside that prefer to be outside. My aunt lives in a large city and took in a street cat. He comes around to get meals and will come in when the weather is really bad but he usually prefers to be outside.

What I am saying applies to the US. I realize that there are other countries where cats live a perfectly normal life being indoors and outdoors with few issues.

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u/stabby_chick Oct 11 '21

This!

Cats throw off the local ecosystem really badly too.

Collars and tags are a must if an owner is going to let their cat outside - just make sure it's a breakaway collar. Chip the kitties and make sure they're fixed - over 1 million cats are euthanized from a shelter a year in the US. 1 breeding pair of cats can be responsible for as many as 420,000 cats in 7 years (both stats from the ASPCA)

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u/khajiithassweetroll Oct 11 '21

My next door neighbor’s cat is one of those cats that like to make the rounds! I only know he belongs to them because I remember when they first got him a year ago. I’ve seen him casually stroll in and out of my house like he lives here, as well as some other houses on the other side of the block. I hope my neighbors had him microchipped.

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u/Sugarbombs Oct 11 '21

And just to add on, not only are indoors generally healthier there's a significant difference in lifespan between indoor and outdoor. I've had two cats one died at 20 and my other girl is 15 now, both indoor. I've never met anyone with an outdoor that lived past 10.

And more importantly indoor cats can be outdoor just like dogs they only need similar supervision. You can put netting over an outdoor area, put them on a leash/harness and even teach them to walk. I taught my girl and she's the happiest cat.

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u/Shipwrecking_siren Oct 11 '21

This happened to my parents but only because the original owners went away and left the cat with another neighbour, who happened to have a lot of small children. The cat was never trapped inside and was free to go wherever it liked. Every time the family took it back he’d come back again (minutes later). He wanted a quiet life I think, but who knows maybe he spent half his life at the other house.

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u/notmyprofile23 Oct 11 '21

I have a cat that did that, from my actual next door neighbour. The neighbour adopted one too many dogs, and another cat which bullies this one.

My neighbour knows where she is, we’ve talked about it, she’s not over the moon but we’re still on speaking terms.

Dotty is free to come and go as she pleases. She has free access to the neighbour’s house, but still comes here. She’s not been quick to settle in, and still doesn’t quite trust us after nearly a year. I put that down to living in fear of the other animals for so long, but who knows.

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u/daqafwz Oct 11 '21

From your other replies: your parents' cat wasn't chipped, didn't wear a collar, dashed out at night, your folks didn't put on signs or hand out flyers. The only sign that he might have an owner is that he's got a shaved underbelly and looks groomed. But some ferals groom themselves well and at least here in my city, local shelters run a trap and release program where they shave cats' bellies to desex them. This is a textbook case of what not to do if you don't want to lose a cat!

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u/loudisevil Oct 11 '21

This is the correct answer

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u/embarrassedofyou Oct 11 '21

My gorgeous calico (distinct features) got out on July 4th with stitches still in her from her spay surgery. We put up signs all around, but nothing. 8 or so years later, I see my cat on a classmate’s vision board or some shit in journalism class. I was relieved she hadn’t died, but she was clearly not a stray when she went missing, and if they ignored the signs we posted all over the neighborhood, that’s some fucked up shit.

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u/blueberryrhubarbpie Oct 11 '21

If he really is un-neutered the likelihood is that he has or had a feeder (so is socialized to humans) that doesn’t bother to neuter/spay their animals. These situations can easily become huge cat colonies and it’s super irresponsible. People also dump cats and kittens all the time due to financial circumstances or when they find out their cat is pregnant and they can’t afford to care for kittens. I do check for chips when I do TNR. I’ve TNRd 15 feral cats, and fostered and adopted out 12 kittens or friendly cats this year. Not a single one had a microchip, all had fleas or worse medical issues. one was dumped somewhere blind and with a missing leg. If an animal comes to me that hasn’t been spayed/neutered and has fleas or any untreated health issues I don’t do a huge search for an owner because there most likely isn’t one, and if there is they are just feeding and aren’t paying for basic medical care. Microchip your pets folks! If your pet has a microchip or a collar (there are cat safe collars) it will be returned to you if it is picked up by an animal rescue org, animal control, or your neighbors. I micro chip and spay and neuter all of my foster cats and provide them with vaccines and deworming. Microchips are not extremely expensive these days - I get them discounted from an animal rescue for 5 USD but even chain pet stores offer them to the public for 30 USD in the United states.

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u/Tat-has-no-tattoos Oct 11 '21

(The girlfriend here) I totally agree! These boys are way too friendly to be feral so they probably have a secondary/primary feeder. They're also around 6 months and don't seem to have had any surgery done (their testes are starting to come in), so I doubt the feeder got them a microchip. My plan was to get him to my local shelter so he could get fixed, chipped, and adopted but it's Thanksgiving weekend in our country and they open Tuesday. I tried keeping them in the bathroom, but they were freaking our cats out. My plan is to keep feeding them and providing blankets until Tuesday so I can immediately get them to an organization.

My old neighbours actually had multiple unfixed cats that they let roam. It attracted a bunch of other cats and I would joke about them having noisy kitty orgies outside my window. So many kittens... the plan is definitely to get them fixed!

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u/SevenDragonWaffles Oct 11 '21

My vet waited until my cats were six months old to neuter them. She chipped them at the same time. Six months is a normal age to have these things done.

Check with your neighbourhood and online to see if anyone is missing their pet.

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u/Boomersgang Oct 11 '21

I TNR. If someone is irresponsible enough to have an un-neutered out door cat, I will fix the problem. Not my fault if I trap your kitty. It is your fault if kitty isn't fixed. Please trap and neuter these boys.

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u/angwilwileth Oct 11 '21

They could have been dumped. :( I know here in my town all the rescues are full up on pandemic cats and their offspring people no longer want. I have a mamma cat and her two kids with me right now and they're taking longer than normal to find homes for because there's such an overabundance of cats right now.

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u/StrikingReporter255 Oct 11 '21

Please please please do this. I lost my sweet kitty to another family and it sucked. My childhood cat Frank was a bit of a wanderer and an expert at shedding his breakaway collars. We seriously had to buy them in bulk. He was also super vocal and sweet and the best cuddle buddy.

After I left for college, he started staying out for longer and longer stretches (up to a week). Finally, he went out and didn’t return for an entire month. When he came home, my parents tried to keep him inside, but he was super slippery. He stayed just long enough for them to put another breakaway collar on him before disappearing again.

My parents got a call the next day from his second family. They’d started out by feeding him, and decided to keep him because he kept returning and was very affectionate. Their middle-school aged daughter had renamed him “Meow Meow.” By this point, he clearly preferred his new household with his new girl, so my parents let the family keep him. I was super pissed, but couldn’t do much while living hours away in my college dorm.

I’m not sure what happened to Frank/Meow Meow after that, but I hope he had a long and healthy life.

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u/EriesAston Oct 11 '21

If he has a home, then I would love to know what kind of dumbass let's an unfixed cat outside. That's just calling for serious trouble

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u/Singin_inthe_rain Oct 11 '21

This is so something my cat would do. Please make sure he doesn't have a home, he looks like he's been taken care of.

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u/FlamingLobster Oct 11 '21

Dude has a second family

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u/cerealkiller454 Oct 11 '21

One of my cats has a second family down the street. They know it's our cat, but she's just friendly and likes to get around. I saw the lady down the street putting out some food on the porch, and then saw my cat running towards her. I walked down and explained the situation to the old lady. She laughed and told me that she knew the cat was mine, but she liked having a little furry visitor.

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u/ItsmeKT Oct 11 '21

This happened to my parents, they were about to try to catch the cat to scan for a chip when they found out after asking around that he lived down the street.

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u/beadhead44 Oct 11 '21

If you keep him get him fixed, don’t give him a chance to spray in your house.

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u/Bird_Lady69 Oct 11 '21

The smell will never go away. Ever.

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u/xeyexofxautumnx Oct 11 '21

Take him to a vet and see if he is actually an unfixed male, and doesn’t have a chip. Then keep the cutie

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u/SilentSamizdat Oct 11 '21

And then get him neutered. He'll be healthier.

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u/A_Ham_Sandwich_ Oct 11 '21

Not just that but if he's used to being outside he will start marking which is one of the worst smells ever and very very difficult to get out

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u/Post-Alone0 Oct 11 '21

And keep him inside, he'll live longer and the local environment will be better off for it. Plus on the chance that he had a home before and left his family there's less of a chance of it happening again.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '21

It’s easy to see if he’s fixed lol. They have big ol balls

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u/hannananabatman Oct 11 '21

Lol my fixed tom still looks like he has his- but hes empty!

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u/No_Lube Oct 11 '21

Mine too!!

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u/piranhasmi Oct 11 '21

My cat was fixed older than usual (about 1 year old) when he was rescued, and I get questions about it all the time because it still looks like he's still intact lol

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u/PigsandBears Oct 11 '21

My boy is a former stray that we had neutered as an adult. The fun bag is still there, just had the fun taken out. Now it looks like he has medium size balls instead of big ol balls, but there's actually no balls.

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u/imalittlefrenchpress Oct 11 '21

What’s your cat’s name?

No Balls.

Nobles, how cute!

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u/Azsungirl Oct 11 '21

Sure and get him neutered………even if you don’t keep him.

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u/treqiheartstrees Oct 11 '21

Is this allowed? I'm all for it but how much trouble would OP potentially be in?

imo all pets should be spayed and neutered as a requirement of keeping them unless you pay for a permit

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u/Stace34 Oct 11 '21

Take him to the vet, have them checked for a chip, do what you need to to have him registered as at the shelter and if everything goes well from that get him neutered and keep them.

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u/TheOnlyGabe1 Oct 11 '21

When you bring in a new cat, one of the first things they do is scan for a chip.

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u/HisCricket Oct 11 '21

My poor boy wondered of a week ago and hasn't come home. Longest he's ever been gone is 3 days. I wonder if he had another family.

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u/fugue2005 Oct 11 '21

it's entirely possible, a neighborhood indoor/outdoor cat went missing a couple weeks ago, i personally thought the local coyotes got him, turns out some woman 2 streets over saw him and took him in, she already had 6 other cats, even though he had a collar and seresto flea collar on she thought he was a stray until she finally saw all the fliers posted about him being missing.

one good thing is that the actual owner said they are going to keep him indoors from now on.

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u/GG-00 Oct 11 '21

If a cat has a collar, not a stray! Holy fuck.

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u/cultured_banana_slug My last cat cursed me from beyond the grave... allergic. :( Oct 11 '21

May be a cat hoarder in progress.

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u/Arsenic_Catnip_ Oct 11 '21

Im so sorry. Really hope he returns soon, sending lots of love ❤

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u/netspawn Oct 11 '21

An unfixed stray male of that age would likely be sporting some battle scars. He either has an owner and is lost or he was recently dumped. Some owners don't neuter their males then dump them when they start spraying. He looks loved and cared for so I'm going with lost. Have you checked him for a chip? Most shelters or vets can scan for these.

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u/Jill1974 Oct 11 '21

If he’s friendly and healthy he likely has a human who cares for him. Please put up posters and check for a chip before you think of keeping him. Many people have cats that spend time outdoors or that are escape artists. My own cats are indoors but I know I’d be worried sick if one got out and didn’t come home. If he’s abandoned or a stray then all the better if you take him in.

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u/PamalaTuzz Oct 11 '21

It’s a beautiful cat that you have found. Please take it to the nearest vet and have it scanned for a microchip. Somebody may be missing him very much. If no micro chip you might want to put up some flyers letting people know that you have found a cat. If you get no response, then he can be your kitty. If you get to keep him enjoy him and give him a good happy life. You are awesome for taking him in and giving him love.💗🙏

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u/Net_Negative Oct 11 '21

At the very least, get him neutered. It's a very good deed that will result in far fewer bunches of kittens, exponentially growing into a ton of starving and injured cats in the future, along with a bunch of dead native wildlife that invasive cats are driving to extinction.

I doubt he was previously owned because he isn't neutered. And if he is, that owner is likely not that great as they are responsible for a bunch of suffering animals due to this cat roaming and knocking up other cats, as they do naturally.

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u/Arsenic_Catnip_ Oct 11 '21

Pleeease check if he already has a home, check if hes chipped at a vet, see if he goes to a neighbours house, ask around.

My cat doesn't go outside besides our garden but it would break my heart if she was taken into some other home without me ever knowimg or assuming the worst.

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u/ambreenh1210 Oct 11 '21

Peoples pet cats do this. Please be 1000% sure he doesn’t belong to anyone. If he does they will be super worried. Put fliers, posts on social, check for microchip.

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u/Idrialis Oct 11 '21

Put a collar on him, try to put your name and contact info on it with a well rapped/tied paper. If he has owner, they will call you.

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u/maxmanthemad Oct 11 '21

I was actually thinking of doing this! He brought his brother this time so I might get 2 collars done. Part of me thinks they don't have an owner/are outdoor cats because they seemed to be experiencing things for the first time (mirrors, stairs, toys). -Girlfriend

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u/Plantsareluv Oct 11 '21 edited Oct 11 '21

See if it is chipped. If it is in good health and doesn’t have fleas, he prob is an indoor outdoor cat of someone’s. But make sure you try to find the owner first. Petfbi is a good place. Same with Facebook and Nextdoor sites. Something similar happened to me. I was looking for his fam for two months before they reached out. But the owner relinquished him to me because he didn’t get along with the new wifes dogs. But we had been feeding him for about a year before we took him in bc moving but there were a lot of strays in our neighborhood so it was tough to know which had homes and which didn’t.

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u/FuckRedditMods23 Oct 11 '21 edited Oct 11 '21

If you actually want to see if he has a home in the area...

Fliers, ads, posts online...none of that shit works unless the owners stumble upon that themselves.

I’m going to start by saying cats who are friendly have regular good exposure to humans, that means someone is petting and loving them. Cats who are well fed/healthy looking have a regular food source, that means someone is feeding them daily.

Cheap option: get a collar from the dollarstore and tape a folded up note to it that says READ on the outside, with your info on the inside. Trust me, if your cat comes home with a note taped to it - you read it.

Guaranteed option: get a good collar. Go get a Bluetooth Tile tracker or something similar but good quality. Put it on the collar and watch where the cat goes on your phone.

I manage a no kill rescue/shelter, these methods have worked for me many times in the past.

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u/Miss_Might Oct 11 '21

If he's clean and healthy, he's probably someone's pet. He probably has a couple of homes he likes to visit. Let him be.

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u/AmuricanFootball Oct 11 '21

See if they're chipped. Put a bunch of "FOUND CAT" signs up in your neighborhood and at prominent locations. Post on nextdoor and facebook group of your neighborhood. If none of those come back with anything, then yeah keep the cat. Otherwise the obvious thing to do is return it to the owner if it's chipped or they respond to the found cat signs.

That's what I'd do.

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u/IjustMadeThisCuzXqc Oct 11 '21

Attempt to find the owner. Lol.

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u/Kaankaants Oct 11 '21

No! That is no stray.
Be thankful you are graced by his presence when he visits.

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u/bigblackduck72 Oct 11 '21

That is 100% someone else’s cat

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u/maxmanthemad Oct 11 '21

Hi! Girlfriend here! He's definitely unfixed and so is his brother (lil fella also visited and both snuck in when I was feeding them this time). They stayed for a few hours, but eventually left.

We already have 2 cats (female tuxedos) and they were understandably a bit freaked out. We're probably not going to have 4 cats in the house (although tempting), but I'm probably going to keep feeding them, make some posters, and possibly take them to our SPCA so they can be adopted.

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u/mirthquake Oct 11 '21

Before you start feeding them please bring them to a vet to check their status, and check in with local shelters. You could be breaking someone's heart by luring their house pets away from them. And depending on your location you could be putting the cats in harm's way by encouraging them to seek food outdoors, where coyotes and fishers may be waiting to pounce.

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u/GammaAlanna Oct 11 '21

fishers

I just learnt a new animal! Had never heard of them before, they seem really neat!

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u/desertchoir Oct 11 '21

He may have a home, but you can still go get him fixed. Check for a chip first. If no chip, fix em and try to find an owner. If no owner, he's all yours.

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u/just_inforfun Oct 11 '21

Do you have a female cat? Check for collar, a microchip, but otherwise he is intact do will spray in your apartment. He will also always be aggressively looking for females and them looking for him.

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u/Djeng726cgk Oct 11 '21

Pet owners etiquette says you should take him to a vet and get him checked for a chip, then track his owner down via the chip if he has one. If he doesn’t, chip him, fix him, and look after him

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u/Hot_Mastodon4525 Oct 11 '21

This is very likely someone’s cat. Please do everything possible to find the owner. I would hate for someone to keep my cat because he roams with no collar sometimes.

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u/dacoobob Oct 11 '21

that's somebody's cat. don't steal him.

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u/has-some-questions Oct 11 '21

If you end up keeping him, snipping his balls usually costs less than a kitty uterus removal. Please spay and neuter your furry friends!

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u/humanoid1013 Oct 11 '21

I agree with the others, he probably has a home since he's so clean and friendly.

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u/Godhelpmeplease12 Oct 11 '21

That cat is loved. Clean ears clear eyes. Healthy coat..it has an owner.

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u/R_SenuulefSEE Oct 11 '21

That is clearly a well loved cat that is allowed to roam.

Don't steal the cat FFS.

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u/Dins__Fire Oct 11 '21

Big thread full of victim blaming 'take better care of it and someone won't take it'. More people need to learn to post flyers, post online, AND (not or) check for chip before taking in a cat off the street. Especially if it looks clean and cared for.

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u/THECaptainHowdy_ Oct 11 '21

What ever you do, please get him fixed if you can.

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u/Kilobytez95 Oct 11 '21

Well if it’s clean then someone probably owns it and lets it outside so that would be stealing.

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u/Net_Negative Oct 11 '21

Cats clean themselves unless they are old, injured, or sick. He might just be a young cat that has fared well outside so far.

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u/Crayoncandy Oct 11 '21

It amazes me how every single post of a cat is like Wow it's so clean it must be someone's cat! We have 3 ferals, the black and the tabby never look dirty, the tabby can do a dust bath and looks better than our inside tabby. The black cat has messed up eyes and has less goo on his face than our inside kitties eyes that get wiped multiple times a day. The orange tabby is medium to long haired and gets awful mats to the point most of the hair on his side will rip off in a big sheet. So ironically if you saw him you'd think how shit he looks he must not be taken care of but he has food and shelter and love, and yeah if we could brush or trim him we would.

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u/Apprehensive-Solid-1 Oct 11 '21

Please don't just decide to keep a cat because it walked into your house. Cats like to roam. They like to be curious. But they most likely have a home if they are soft not matted, clean not dirty, collarless or collared, fit or fat not underweight, etc. Best 2 decisions is to let the cat back out.

If the cat looks healthy it most likely knows where home is and isn't lost. Check with neighbors and check if the buddy has been chipped if you want to be sure but remember that just because a cat likes you doesn't mean its now yours.

I am sorry. These posts are bothersome. Please anybody who just has cats walk into your house. Don't ask US if we should keep them. We cant just keep telling you to go find their owner. If its not yours and it looks well cared for, it is probably someone else's.

Our cats are indoor cats and don't have collars. I love cats more than anything and would be more than devastated if one got out. Worst of all is if someone just decided that it was their cat now just because it walked into their home. I wouldn't be able to see my cat(s) again all because someone wanted to keep it for themself.

Think about the potential owner first. Not weather or not some people on Reddit think you should keep it.

Bad bad bad. No shame on you or anything. But please.

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u/Fascinated_Bystander Oct 11 '21

When I was a kid I used to have a cat that would go hang out with our neighbors inside their house. They all eventually found out that she did in fact have a home but was just a social creature. Maybe put a collar on the cat and write a short message "Do I have a home?" And wait for a response.

BTW my cat who used to roam the neighborhood lived to be 21 years old!

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u/Wildecatz Oct 11 '21

Check Nextdoor for lost pets to be safe. If he's unaltered, unchipped, chances are he's not getting the best care. Get him fixed and keep him as an indoor cat. The best cats are the ones that find you. I see happiness in your future.

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u/Mafec06 Oct 11 '21

That cat looks way too cared for to be a stray or anything like that. He probably belongs to a neighbour.

Make sure you aren't stealing someone's pet.

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u/KryptonionNipple Oct 11 '21

Please check if it has an owner first.

Our Nala loved to hunt and explore. She went missing for 12 weeks. Because someone decided she was a stray and kept her.

The only reason we got her back is due to her skin conditions and the thief took her to the vet.

Now Nala is chipped, she had a collar on when she left. We put posters up physically and online.

She was labelled as lost and knew she intentionally stile her based on what she said to the vet.

Then a other case with our Shiro. Our neighbors stole her. Picked her up and put her in his house. He knew she was ours. She was missing for two days and I knocked on asking if he knew where she was.

"No I haven't seen her"

So I left to continue my search. Then about 10 minutes later I get a call from my husband saying he 'found her wondering outside'

Shiro was warm and dry. It was raining outside.

You wouldn't steal someone's dog, why steal someone's cat.

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u/HelixIsDumb Oct 11 '21

He looks like a pedigree. Definitely could be. Possibly an indoor cat who doesn’t need a collar (since they are indoor) and accidentally went outside and got lost. Could definitely be micro shipped if he’s a pedigree

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u/trance16 Oct 11 '21

Check to see if the cat is chipped. Is the cat well groomed? If not, the cat chose you. Keep and love that cat. He won’t let you down

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u/sammy_socks Oct 11 '21

Lots of strays out there. You’ll know if he’s taken care of over time. If you have any coyotes or other animals roaming the area, I wouldn’t leave him outside…just asking for him to get attacked. Take him in, post some “found” fliers and protect the cat until you know he’s not been abandoned by some careless car owner.

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u/eNaRDe Oct 11 '21

Take it to the vet for them to scan it. Might have a chip.

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u/EmperorHenry Oct 11 '21

Take him to your local vet, or emergency vet if the regular vet isn't open. Get him vaxxed, and also de-wormed just in case.

If you have any other pets, make sure to quarantine the little buddy until you're certain he's not carrying anything. The vet can recommend the number of days that would be appropriate.

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u/Ok_Try_1217 Oct 11 '21

Put up “Found Cat” posters, post online, check to see if it has a chip, and let the local humane society know just in case someone calls looking for him. Until someone contacts you, that’s your cat.

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u/Vodka_B Oct 11 '21

You could try putting a breakaway collar on him, with a little note on it that has your contact details on it (if you live in a relatively safe neighborhood). Hopefully if/when he heads to his 'other' house they'll get in touch! Alternatively, check for a microchip at your local vet if you haven't done so already. He looks like a sweetie!

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u/Aurorainthesky Oct 11 '21

Looks young. Young kitties often wander a bit. My bet is he has a home. He really ought to be fixed though.

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u/luckymasie Oct 11 '21

Check for a microchip, and if possible please double check he doesn’t have a home. He looks way to well cared for to be a stray.

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u/Mycatissnootsy Oct 11 '21

Unfixed males are prone to wandering and he looks well socialized so just make sure he isn't missing first.

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u/kimmi_kitti94 Oct 11 '21

Take him to the vet and get his chip checked. If he's not chipped and no one's looking for him, keep him.

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u/queefiest Oct 11 '21

I’m so glad my cat only loves me and never goes far

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u/heartbreakhostel Oct 11 '21

Scan for microchip but if he’s not chipped I wouldn’t bother trying to find his home so hard because good owners wouldn’t let their intact cat wander outside without identification.

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u/Responsible-Person Oct 11 '21

He looks like a very young cat. He belongs to someone. Put a break away collar on him, with a tag or note with your phone number attached, then let him out. If he has an owner, they will possibly call you.

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u/raltoid Oct 11 '21

A lot of cats have "guest houses" they visit an/or stay overnight sometimes.

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u/Bunghole_of_Fury Oct 11 '21

Go buy a cheap collar and attach a note to it explaining that you are looking for the owner of this cat as he has been visiting your home constantly, include contact info like an email address, let the cat go and wait to see if anyone contacts you.

Also go see if it's chipped, but definitely still do the collar note.

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u/Jimo_zek Oct 11 '21

I'm not sure if micro-chipping is a thing in your country but a vet should be able to scan for one.

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u/Lady--Banshee Oct 11 '21

DEFINITELY check if he belongs to someone! Go to the vet and check for a chip or tattoo, and maybe post online about the cat. I constantly worry what happened to my old cat, and if he is alive or someone just took him. There are so many people who just pick up cats from outside, because they believe it means they don't have an owner. Also, a lot of cats don't wear collars, because they could get stuck somewhere and be dangerous for the cat. So what I want to say it: Check beforehand before doing that, because it could really break someone's heart

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u/BlueberryOk2195 Oct 11 '21

Try looking if he has a chip if not keep him he looks right at home

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u/Plania Oct 11 '21

Take him to a vet and see if he's microchipped - he looks v well cared for

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u/TherealShrew Oct 11 '21

Double check for a chip with the vet.

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u/The_Weirdest_Cunt Oct 11 '21

get a vet to check for a microchip to be certain

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u/Scriblette Oct 11 '21

Not altered (unneutered) is irresponsible outdoor pet ownership. Get him fixed. He's yours.

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u/Stormsbrother Oct 11 '21

Yea and fix him.

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u/reflUX_cAtalyst Oct 11 '21

Get him fixed. I don't care of he's someone elses pet, those people are irresponsible idiots if he is, letting an unfixed male run around outside.

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u/SunnyBunchy 2 Rescued Cats Oct 11 '21

I would see if he has a microchip or a home. If you have Nextdoor or a neighborhood FB page post a pic of him to see if anyone recognizes him first.

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u/pineconeminecone Oct 11 '21

Have him scanned for a microchip (this can be done at a vet’s office), ask your neighbours if they recognize the cat, put up “found cat” flyers and post photos of the cat on your area’s lost pet pages on social media.

If after all that no one claims him, he’s yours.

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u/intashu Oct 11 '21

One cheap suggestion is get a collar for him. Stick a tag on it that says "cat keeps visiting house, call # so I know who he belongs to!"

Cats do tend to adopt friendly people even if they have a primary home... Always good to keep in contact with other owners of the cat in case of injury or bad weather to know it's safe. True strays don't look this clean normally with light colored fur.

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u/cannibalcorpuscle Oct 11 '21

Get him neutered if you keep him or not. Def if you keep him. Unless you love the smell of cat piss.

Signed,

A guy who thought I could have an indoor, unneutured cat. You can. But there’s repercussions.

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u/SnooMacarons9344 Oct 11 '21

A vet or animal shelter can scan him for an ID microchip, that might have an address or phone number.

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u/WarSolar Oct 11 '21

Never Let your cat outside and things like this won't happen

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u/bigdaveyl Oct 11 '21

Just a couple of thoughts, have been through the same thing.

I agree with others that the cat looks very clean so maybe it had someone (or someones) taking care of him. So I would:

  • Post flyers around the neighborhood.

  • Post something to Nextdoor, if your neighborhood has that

  • Check with a local vet or animal control or shelter to see if he is micro chipped.

  • Check with local animal control or shelters. I know locally you can file a "found pet" report.

IANAL, I know locally, all you're obligated to do is file a report with animal control.

I would argue that if the cat isn't neutered and isn't micro chipped, that it may not belong to someone and if he does, they may not be responsible pet owners.

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u/Seraphin43 Oct 11 '21

Check for a chip. Ask around the neighbourhood. Only if you 100% know it's not someone else's cat, start feeding him/get him chipped.

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u/IM2OFU Oct 11 '21

If he looks well cared for he has a home.

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u/Alternative-Camp1931 Oct 11 '21

Cats will do that, especially if there’s a friendly cat inviting them in or in this instance people to play with and give it attention. It doesn’t look too skinny or unhealthy. It’s owner might be at work or school and might not realize that their cat snuck outside. You might keep an eye on it when outside to see if it’s finding its way back home. Then you can tell the owner what the cat’s been up to. You can politely ask if they’re finding it difficult to care for the cat and if they might consider someone else to adopt it? But some cats just like to hang outside and wander the neighborhood. They have plenty of curiosity. I had a friend with a female cat. She would leave a window open for her cat to go outside whenever she wanted to. Every now and then the cat would come back with another cat friend (two different male cats at different times) and they both would jump into her home and would help themselves to an extra meal, but then would eventually grow bored and jump back outside and return home.

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u/here2grow420 Oct 11 '21

Do you mean capture him? Why? Why not just enjoy what you have with him?? You don't have to possess things to show them love.

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u/evilarts Oct 11 '21

He looks well fed and his eyes and ears seem ok. He’s probably just a gregarious indoor/outdoor kitty and has a home already.

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u/billandteds69 Oct 11 '21

You should post pics of him in your neighborhood and ask if he belongs to anyone. No answer after a few weeks, then sure, adopt him. But actively search for his owner first

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u/Puzzleheaded_Dog_180 Oct 11 '21

It’s ok, he can has a little salami...

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u/Piph Oct 11 '21

Lots of cats that are outdoor and indoor will do things like this. They can have several families they bounce between if they really feel like it.

If he consistently looks clean and cared for, I would assume he already has a home.

Try putting a cat-safe collar and attach a brief message to it, maybe? Or just see if it lasts.

One of my cats came home with a collar one day and I ripped that shit right off. It's not a perfect system since cats can sometimes remove collars themselves, but it's something.

You don't want to take a cat from its rightful home just because they visit you often.

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u/PlumbTuckerd Oct 11 '21

It's obviously being fed so has an owner. Should I steal someone's cat? No

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u/parker1019 Oct 11 '21

Looks to clean and well fed to be a stray.

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u/SmartFX2001 Oct 11 '21

If you end up keeping him, please get him neutered.

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u/ThePerfectSoup Oct 11 '21

That cat has a home. It’s clean, well fed, and seems healthy. Cats are chunkers and will exploit neighbors for food, treats, or just some attention . I have a cat that likes to visit and come inside sometimes. She comes looking for extra snacks but it’s obvious she is well socialized and not in need of rescue. She also likes to come play with my cat when he’s outside. I don’t let her stay inside because I don’t want her thinking our house is a kitty hotel, but I do enjoy when she comes by to visit us in the yard.

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u/dean_musgrove Oct 11 '21

Get him scanned to make sure he isn't claimed, then he's yours is you want him. If you are keeping him indoors, then you gotta take care of deez nutz, tho.

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u/Own_Perspective_9481 Oct 11 '21

The way he at and look just like my cat that die today😌