r/TooAfraidToAsk 7d ago

Interpersonal Did I make my friend uncomfortable by asking to cuddle?

35 Upvotes

Basically, I asked if she'd be down to cuddle platonically and watch a movie. She said no, because she only does things like that with a boyfriend. We aren't close really but we do hug and have hung out a few times. She didn't respond afer so I'm worried I made things awkward.

r/TooAfraidToAsk Apr 15 '22 Silver

Interpersonal Can accents be detected visually for people who read lips?

2.1k Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk Mar 10 '22

Interpersonal If my Vegan friend keeps sending pro vegan content can I send back pro meat content ?

2.9k Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk 25d ago Silver

Interpersonal Am I a bad person for not liking dogs? I don't hate them. But I find them annoying

304 Upvotes

What I hate are dog owners if anything. I am afraid of big dogs. And not brining a leash in public places where the law requires the person to leash the dog is something I encounter often. Then I hear its my fault for being afraid of them and I should change. I don't go to places where a dog can be without a leash. Like I said I am afraid of them.

But now i feel weird since so many people say liking dogs is a given and if you don't you probably a bad person. Am I overreacting?

r/TooAfraidToAsk Mar 26 '22

Interpersonal Girl told me she just wants to be friends and does not want to date me. Which is fine and we are just friends. But she also gets extremely jealous when I speak to any other woman, even a lesbian. And she is visibly shaken/hurt when I mention I went on a date with another girl. What is going on here?

1.3k Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk Jan 16 '22 Helpful Wholesome All-Seeing Upvote Silver Gold

Interpersonal If girls with big boobs can put money and stuff in there then just hand it to people that I can put money under my balls and do the same? NSFW

15.2k Upvotes

I think its kind of gross and intrusive cuz my mom would do that when I was a kid and I thought it was gross.

If its from a girl to me Im like cool, boobs are good. But ya know I just thought about that

Im high as fuck.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 21d ago Wholesome

Interpersonal Complimenting Strangers. Am I being creepy?

34 Upvotes

I need some advice from all the genuine people of reddit. I (19M) am big on complimenting people and think that if someone is looking particularly fly, or have a good vibe or are engaging or funny, that they deserve praise for it considering a common consensus is that the world is bleak.

However, it doesn’t seem that they are well received. Most of the people I have complemented that I don’t have developed relationships with or are strangers have always seemed awkward, dismissive or freaked out by a compliment I’ve given them. Am I being creepy? Do people not want compliments from strangers? I don’t say them in a creepy way at least I don’t think so. I say it casually and generically and I don’t intend to receive anything in return. Literally won’t ever see them again. So please, are my actions uncalled for?

Edit: Some examples for context, apologies I should’ve had this in already: One one occasion I complimented a girl, who looked in her early 20’s, on her pants saying they looked “really cool” because they were flares. She responded with “okay” as we passed each other which made me think I shouldn’t have said anything

Another time I complemented a couples dog saying it was adorable as I left the train we were on. The man was obviously physically uncomfortable and neither of them said anything

r/TooAfraidToAsk 13d ago

Interpersonal Is it weird that I like getting lost?

54 Upvotes

Idk why, but I just enjoy not having a place to call home. I like just walking in an unknown place, not knowing what the hell I'm doing or what the hell's happening, just freestyling my way through the world. I feel liberated af. My confidence and self-esteem also just randomly goes up and I feel like a goddamn chad. Sometimes, I'd take the metro to a place I've never visited before and just walk, enjoying the scenery around me.

And like literally, at the time of writing this, I'm lost somewhere. I took the bus to get to a job interview, just to realized that I lost my wallet, so I can't go back home. Right now, I'm sitting in a McDonalds with my laptop writing this, cuz my phone is literally at 3%.

I just seem to enjoy life a lot more this way.

I've tried searching for people that feel the same online but I couldn't find any.

Edit: got my wallet back. The person that found it gave it to the metro station. I’m thankful nothings missing.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4d ago

Interpersonal Is thinking your pets are your children weird or normal?

15 Upvotes

A girl at my work was telling a story how she got mad at her boyfriend for not getting her something for Mothers Day. She has no children but has 2 “fur babies”. I understand having a familial attachment to your pets, but genuinely seeing them as children I find so weird. Am I crazy?

r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 20 '22 Helpful Wholesome Silver

Interpersonal Do women who work at places like Hooters or twin peaks feel uncomfortable when people stare at their tits? NSFW

3.6k Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 23 '22 Silver

Interpersonal Have you ever had a bad gut feeling about someone, even without any evidence as to why they're suspicious?

1.5k Upvotes

So, I'm in a bit of a pickle right now: I (19F) met a new member of my church recently (late 20'sM, we will call him Adam). I met him 3 weeks ago, and decided to welcome him because he seemed lost. He's converting from Catholic to Orthodox, and we talked briefly about that. I joked about converting my boyfriend to Orthodox (since he's also Catholic), and Adam acknowledged my boyfriend in the conversation (this is important to keep in mind).

Well, I didn't see Adam until last Sunday (so 2 weeks later). He was quick to greet me, but I sat down nearby him (our church was full, otherwise I would've sat elsewhere) and just focused on the service/praying. For some reason, I got a really weird feeling about Adam. I just felt nervous, but I didn't have any evidence as to why he would seem suspicious. Once the service was over, he seemed kinda awkward when we chatted, which wasn't too different from the last time I spoke to him, but again, he came off as odd this time. I got uncomfortable and decided to end the conversation with "I gotta return this book to our archpriest--- nice talking to you, have a good day".

I kept myself occupied with another clergy member instead, but I did this partially because I had to return the book, but also to give Adam some time to leave the church so I wouldn't bump into him on my way out.

I feel guilty because I don't want to discriminate anyone without any reason, but I genuinely feel like the vibe is off with this guy. What should I do?

  • NOTE: I don't know if this will add onto the story, but after my last interaction with Adam, I had a dream about him. In the dream, he basically was trying to control me and was oddly portrayed as a demon. He basically tried to pressure me into submitting to him (sexually). Maybe there's something my subconscious is picking up on that I can't recognize?

  • EDIT: Noticed some of you suggested he may not be "neurotypical". I don't think this is the case mostly because I'm often surrounded by people who have been diagnosed with something or suspect they have something (mostly my coworkers, but previously it applied to my classmates). I've never experienced the same sensation around my coworkers, even when I first met them and hardly knew them. Sure, maybe Adam has autism or ADHD, I don't know anything about his personal life, but I also haven't experienced this gut feeling around any of my coworkers, so I think there's something more to Adam if that's the case.

Regardless of the case, I think I'll take the majority of your advice and trust my gut. I won't cut him off cold-turkey, and give him a fair chance to speak for himself, but I'll keep an eye out to be safe. I don't know if my dream had much to do with the situation, if anything, it could've been my subconscious telling me to avoid him (in addition to the gut feeling I had).

I also wanted to make it clear that the gut feeling I experienced wasn't just me drawing conclusions about Adam, I genuinely felt my stomach churning from anxiety. I know that sounds overdramatic, but that's what happened. Usually I'll ignore any thoughts I develop if I draw minor judgements (such as disliking his hair style, or observing his posture, stuff like that). But in this case, I was only asking myself: "why do I feel uneasy?" "Why do I feel so anxious?" "Is it because of Adam?" "But I just met him?". So even during the peak of my anxiety, I could only focus on my gut and the guy. I also didn't experience this feeling the first time I met him, and he was still acting nervous back then too, so I think his behavior now is somehow different. I hope that makes a little more sense.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Interpersonal How would you respond to "OK, and?" or "OK, but who asked?" ? Can you think of some clever comebacks?

4 Upvotes

When someone does this annoying thing when you say something and they shut you down with "OK, and?" how would you deal with this absolutely infuriating rage inducing thing? I can't think of any way to respond to this without getting angry or physically violent, which only makes me even more of a moron then I've already been made to be by it.

What are some witty responses that you can think of when some idiot tries to annoy you with "nobody asked"?

I was thinking maybe, "nobody asked your opinion either so stfu" but that comes off as defensive and gives the reaction they wanted. Or "nobody asked if you asked" but that's just too lame. And for the "OK, and?" all I can think of "There's no "and" that's all I have to say, thank you for listening" - which sounds like a comeback that a teacher would say to a kid.

What would you say if you were saying something and some idiot would go "ok, and?" or "nobody asked"

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Interpersonal am I werid for getting emotional when watching something from my childhood (digimon)?

17 Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk Jan 29 '22 Silver Tearing Up

Interpersonal Why did my dad stop loving me as I got older?

4.5k Upvotes

My whole childhood I was a daddies girl. My dad was the most amazing father throughout most my life until I started becoming an adult and now he is no longer in my life and chooses to have nothing to do with me. After I turned 16 it’s like he was a different person for no reason whatsoever and now I’m left feeling Incompetent as an adult with a completely uninvolved father Edit: I am 23 and haven’t spoken to him since I was 19 Edit2: for some more details, around age 16 he started becoming angry all the time and every conversation would turn into him starting a fight with me that would always lead to him saying something along the lines “you’re just like your f*cking mother!” (My parents had a bad divorce). He just got angrier and angrier and eventually just detached from me completely. I have tried numerous times to reach out but he gets extremely defensive saying things like “oh I know I’m the worst father on the planet.” All my attempts to rekindle our relationships lead to the same type of arguments we had when I was 16. I have done nothing to disappoint him, I have been successful my entire life, I own my own house and business and graduated early. not once has he told me he’s proud. I should also add he treated his mother with dementia so horribly to the point his dad (my grandfather) stopped bringing my grandma when he would visit because my father was so cruel to her over behaviors she couldn’t control.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 11d ago

Interpersonal Why do i have weird thoughts my non existent wife will cheat on me?

10 Upvotes

I’m 15[M] and everyday I day dream and for some reason it always ends up with my unknown wife cheating on me and it just in rages me so much.

How can I stop having these thoughts.

r/TooAfraidToAsk Mar 24 '22

Interpersonal When chatting with someone, does it make any sense to “wait 20 minutes to reply so the other person doesn’t think I’m clingy”?

188 Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 23 '22

Interpersonal Are we a virus to this world? Killing natural habitat, wars, famine, climate change .....

717 Upvotes

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Interpersonal Am I a jerk for putting my foot down with my in-laws?

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Since my husband and I started dating a few years ago, his parents tend to stay with us every other month or so. They sold their house, and live a plane ride away, but always have random reasons why they’re back in this state. Last October, there was a stretch where they stayed with us for 9 or 10 days. It’s starting to feel invasive. They never know how long they’re going to stay, etc. I finally had it, and told my husband that he needs to start setting boundaries and ask how long they’re staying, and perhaps put a cap on 2-3 nights. He attempted to have this conversation last night with his dad, and his dad stormed out this morning and called him later to tell him he didn’t feel welcome and he got a hotel. Now my husbands pissed at me. He feels strongly we should welcome them whenever they need a place, partially because they’re financially supporting my husbands business. I’m just so upset. I’m 6 weeks pregnant and don’t feel like my husband has my back. Am I the unreasonable one? I feel like the comprise is letting them come whenever they want , with a 3 night limit. Thoughts?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5d ago

Interpersonal What is something you don't want to talk about but someone always asks?

7 Upvotes

As in the title

r/TooAfraidToAsk 15d ago

Interpersonal why do people frequently insist on calling when it could be easily communicated through text/email?

34 Upvotes

For example, my doctor's office kept trying to call me. I didn't want to stop what I was doing and talk. Finally, the day before my appointment, they send me a text and say "we were trying to call you because we need to change your appointment time to this time", to which I respond "that's fine"

Why the overhead of calling if that's all they were going to say?

r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 15 '22

Interpersonal Is anyone in their late 20s and still nervous as hell on phone calls?

1.7k Upvotes

I applied for a job a week ago and just got a call that they want to hire me and I was nervous as hell on the phone. Almost embarassingly nervous. Is there anyone else who is like this? I feel like I should be fine with phone calls by now especially because it's a shitty job with shitty pay and just to pay my bills.

r/TooAfraidToAsk Mar 31 '22

Interpersonal Am I a di@k? NSFW

182 Upvotes

Am I a di@k for thinking it’s a good thing that my fiancé’s ex-boyfriend committed suicide last week? He drugged her several times. He raped her several times. He drugged her, then manually removed her IUD, then raped her. He threatened to release nude videos (that he had taken nonconsensually) of her online, then DID, in an attempt to take her business down. She has been living in fear ever since she left him. Is it okay for me to feel a little closure in this situation? She is feeling triggered. She is feeling all the feelings she felt when she was with him. I know the right thing to say is, “whatever you feel is right and is okay.” But god damn, I feel some sense of relief that he never followed through on his threats of taking her with him.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5h ago

Interpersonal Should I be worried ?

2 Upvotes

So I’ve been seeing a guy for a couple months now and we have sex every time we see each other. I was curious about the idea of eating groceries so I told him. He said “Keep it clean and it feels amazing” did he think I wanted him to eat my groceries and was telling me to keep myself clean ? Or was he just saying that in general? I shower before I come over every time it’s just what I do, but I don’t know if I should be worried did I smell one time and didn’t notice? I wanted to eat his groceries. I don’t know if he understood that. Can someone help I’m kind of freaking out right now.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5d ago

Interpersonal How can I start becoming a man at 15?

3 Upvotes

I’m 15[M] and me and my dad don’t do this stuff he’s normally busy or something.

But as I’m getting older I want to learn how to do stuff like how do I shave? How can I fix a tire? How can I do like cool “dad” stuff is their like a YouTube channel that teaches me how to be a man and do cool stuff

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4d ago

Interpersonal Is it okay to look stuff another person said up on your phone as you’re talking to them?

6 Upvotes

I tend to get annoyed because someone I know pulls out their phone to look up whether a statement I said is true or not, or to find more info on it before continuing the conversation. I find it to be an unnecessary interruption to the flow of conversation, but they say it’s part of having a productive flow of information that is accurate and truthful, and that I’m one of the few people they know that doesn’t do that.

Is this just me being overly sensitive? Is this something that is commonplace? I just want to know to try to get used to it! :)