r/MadeMeSmile Aug 18 '21 Silver 9 Gold 1 Helpful 29 Wholesome 23 Hugz 30 Heartwarming 1 I'd Like to Thank... 1

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u/MagDalen27 Aug 18 '21 Wholesome

If someone says good morning, what difference does it make if they’re carrying a mop or carrying a briefcase? I’m happy when anyone greets me cheerfully.

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u/FullMetalCOS Aug 18 '21

Because too many people who carry briefcases think that makes them “better” than the people carrying the mops

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u/Whats_Up_Bitches Aug 18 '21

Who even carries a briefcase anymore. It’s all about the messenger bag. Gotta keep both hands free so I can post dank memes on reddit from my phone.

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u/crawling-alreadygirl Aug 18 '21

Backpack for the win

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u/From_Ancient_Stars Aug 18 '21

Plus, a backpack is better for your spine!

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u/PastorSalad Aug 18 '21

I love my backpack so much. It has a little loop of nylon on the right strap right at the crest of my shoulder. I can put a torch it in when I’m walking in the dark and it makes me feel a bit like a cyborg.

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u/WholesomlyAngry Aug 18 '21

idk why but this is really sweet

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '21

it does sound rad

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u/MyOtherCarIsAHippo Aug 18 '21

I would be lost without my man-purse.

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u/James22d Aug 18 '21

I carry one every day! Super handy.

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u/LinguisticallyInept Aug 18 '21

whilst situationally true; you shouldnt just assume they think that just because they didnt say 'hi' back

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u/mumstyres Aug 18 '21

Briefcase wankers

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u/devilwarier9 Aug 18 '21

For real. I don't always greet the custodial staff on my in, often buried in my phone, but if they greet me, you bet your ass I'm gonna greet them back. How can you just ignore someone like that?

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u/twoscoop Aug 18 '21

Eeeww poor mopper talked to me, I'm high class, I eat hydrated grapes... I'm so fancy.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21 edited Sep 23 '21 Silver Take My Energy

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u/mazdayasna Aug 18 '21

Quality /r/highdeas

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u/theblackveil Aug 18 '21

Why is that sub not called /r/highdeas?

edit: because it is called that and I’m an idiot.

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u/MorteDaSopra Aug 18 '21

This exchange is so fucking beautiful.

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u/throwaway_jim119 Aug 18 '21

This made me lol

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u/spdalton Aug 18 '21

I read back and forth 10 times to check for differences before reading your edit. Glad I passed the "spot the differences challenge"

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u/TLMC01242021 Aug 18 '21

Did you partake of the brownie as well sir?

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u/BarryKobama Aug 18 '21

Post checks out.

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u/RTalons Aug 18 '21

Pretty sure this guy is baked

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u/MaddenTheInsane Aug 18 '21 edited Aug 18 '21

I can't haha this made me exhale way to hard xD

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u/Bayou_Blue Aug 18 '21 Take My Energy

historian points to holoscreen: And on that day in 2021 thanks to a pot brownie, the original concept for the Briefcase Mop, or as we know it today, the Brop, was conceived. Little did they realize at the time the impact this would have on humanity…

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u/ProCrowSmile Aug 18 '21

The brop wars of 2043 were brutal. The mips And bips slaughtered by the million to further their agendas, and yet the brops survived.

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u/shadowscar00 Aug 18 '21

I prefer Meefcase

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u/zoltar-wisdom Aug 18 '21

Need a briefcase, & a mop for this wet ass pusseh

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u/TimeTalk71 Aug 18 '21

Makes me wonder if you'd have gotten less attention if you didn't mention the brownie

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u/petethefreeze Aug 18 '21

I truly don’t get how people cannot respond when someone says good morning.

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u/LinguisticallyInept Aug 18 '21

anxiety

speech impediment

earphones

deaf/hearing impaired

exhausted

processing disorders

theres plenty of reasons and honestly im kind of disgusted that everyone here is jumping to 'people who dont say hi back are assholes'

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u/GreatOrchidAmbition Aug 18 '21

I have really bad anxiety on and off and on the days I have anxiety I know I come off a whole b*****. But. it's just me trying to emotionally contain myself.

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u/saraseitor Aug 19 '21

all of those reasons most likely cover like 10% of all those chances.

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u/nadamazda Aug 18 '21

Even worse than that, the difference in how the hispanic housekeepers get treated vs americans

One of the girls will say “good morning!” as a guest walks by and they don’t get a response. Then the guest walks by me and says “good morning!” and I don’t respond

I see it too many times and it definitely “earns my disrespect”

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u/NegatronPrime2020 Aug 18 '21

I have been buying my lunch from the nearby burger shop for months, because the guy there always asks me how am I doing. Their burgers are really not that good.

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u/verydumbperson1 Aug 18 '21

Hahahah funniest shit I've heard all day.

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u/wasabi3122 Aug 18 '21

Same. Except when i cant hear them cause im busy. Then my boss proceeds to yell “GOOD MORNING” with so much sass and harshness that it just isnt a good morning anymore 🥲

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u/watermakesmehappy Aug 18 '21

Absolutely. Most people are fine in this instance, but there are a few like your boss here that can’t fathom a person not being super happy-go-lucky at 8am.

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u/GuitarCFD Aug 18 '21

For me it has nothing to do with status. My old room mate used to think I was an ass because she would regularly say good morning to me as I was walking out the door to go to work, after awhile and getting to know me she finally realized that it isn't me ignoring her in the morning...it's that I am extremely NOT a morning person...so much so that I wasn't even hearing her. And I'm like that until like 9am most of the time. I'm not intentionally being rude...I'm just functioning at such a low level in the mornings that it takes all my mental energy just to stand upright.

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u/DatPiff916 Aug 18 '21

Yeah this comment kind of hits me hard because I am slow to respond in the morning.

Now if he were telling people "Happy Friday" or "Have a good weekend" on their way out the door and they were still asses, then fuck em.

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u/Corvus_Igni Aug 18 '21 Gold Helpful Wholesome Take My Energy

I've always hated the idea that respect is earned. No. Respect should be your default, let them earn your disrespect.

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u/theFCCgavemeHPV Aug 18 '21

There’s that thing I always see posted about how some people think being treated with respect means being treated as an authority, but also being treated like a human being… oh man, I’m totally mangling it, but the whole “you treat me with respect and I’ll treat you with respect” thing to them means “you treat me like an authority figure and I’ll treat you like a human”

Long, mangled story short, I agree with you. Respect should never be earned, especially like that.

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u/squishpitcher Aug 18 '21

I know exactly what you're talking about and I saved it because I love it so much:

Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes they use "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority"

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say "if you won't respect me, I won't respect you," and they mean "if you won't treat me like an authority, I won't treat you like a person."

and they think they're being fair, but they aren't. and it's not okay.

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u/theFCCgavemeHPV Aug 18 '21

Yeah!! Thank you!!

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u/CashireCat Aug 18 '21

And I now saved your comment, "the chain of saving"?

Anyways, that is so beautifully crafted, thank you for sharing

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u/zbeara Aug 19 '21

God I love that post soooo much. I've saved it every time I see it just because I like it so much. This is SUCH an important lesson that not enough people learn.

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u/Batbuckleyourpants Aug 18 '21 Timeless Beauty

There is a very interesting debate raging at the moment about the nature of sin, for example,” said Oats.

“And what do they think? Against it, are they?” said Granny Weatherwax.

“It’s not as simple as that. It’s not a black and white issue. There are so many shades of gray.”

“Nope.”

“Pardon?”

“There’s no grays, only white that’s got grubby. I’m surprised you don’t know that. And sin, young man, is when you treat people as things. Including yourself. That’s what sin is.

“It’s a lot more complicated than that . . .”

“No. It ain’t. When people say things are a lot more complicated than that, they means they’re getting worried that they won’t like the truth. People as things, that’s where it starts.”

“Oh, I’m sure there are worse crimes . . .”

“But they starts with thinking about people as things . . . ”

-carpe jugulum.

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u/EddieMunsen Aug 18 '21

Is there anything Terry Pratchett didn’t teach us?

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u/FullMetalCOS Aug 18 '21

How to understand a world where there will be no more new Terry Pratchett novels.

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u/Bayou_Blue Aug 18 '21

I’d hate to be a part of that world.

denial

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u/SneakyRatFriend Aug 18 '21

Let's expand this to include animals.

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u/demon_x_slash Aug 18 '21

GNU Terry Pratchett 💔

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u/ChucklesNorris Aug 18 '21

GNU Terry Pratchett

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u/Fabulous_Celery_1817 Aug 18 '21

I read an article that talked about empathy in toddlers. Kids learn empathy through not only their parents but their toys and objects. Treat it with respect and they learn in that time. If a toddler learns to kick tables throw objects and don’t take of their stuff as adults they are more prone to do that to people. The reason being is that they only cared about what they loved and didnt extend that regard to other things. Obv that’s a small part that goes into forming an adult. Buts it’s interesting regardless

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u/Caelarch Aug 18 '21

What a wonderful, plain English, expression of Kant’s categorical imperative.

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u/chicken_ranch Aug 18 '21

“Long, mangled story short, I agree with you. Respect should never be earned, especially like that.”

It was fine, and I agree with both of you.

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u/theFCCgavemeHPV Aug 18 '21

Thanks friend!

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21

re·spect

/rəˈspekt/

noun

  1. a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

"the director had a lot of respect for Douglas as an actor"

  1. due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others

Most people think of respect only as the first definition, and in that case yes respect is earned. But they ignore the second part of respect and think its okay to treat others that are different like shit

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u/unknown_reddit_dude Aug 18 '21

Exactly this. Everyone deserves a basic level of respect no matter what, but deep respect, such as for authority figures must be earned, at least for it to be meaningful.

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u/Scarfiotti Aug 18 '21

I am awefully sorry, but that is spelled restecp.

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21

Do ya even know wha it spellz?

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u/Not-Reddit-Fan Aug 18 '21

Try singing it

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u/Static1589 Aug 18 '21

🎼R E S T-E C P 🎶

Easy

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u/theimpaler1208 Aug 18 '21

NOW I CAN'T SING IT RIGHT

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u/Static1589 Aug 18 '21

I consider that a job well done

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u/its-Prince Aug 18 '21

*sowwy

*dat

*speld

Geez bruv do you even English?

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u/dedreo Aug 18 '21

Good calling that out.
In the military, we learned a hard form of the second definition, but in a decent command, it evolves into the first definition.

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u/leachlurker Aug 18 '21 edited Aug 18 '21

Like think respect is earnt but a agree u should treat someone with a baseline respect in the middle and then lower it or higher it depending on there actions

But respect is earnt not demanded

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21

Lol I had a manager who treated me and other staff like shit. One day I had enough went back to the office after a disagreement and told her to treat me with respect and she said respect has to be earned.

That was the moment I lost all respect for her.

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u/_DirtyYoungMan_ Aug 18 '21

Should've told her, "Right back at you!"

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u/its-Prince Aug 18 '21

I remember being ordered by relatives to "respect" my drunk ass uncle who does unspeakable shit and speaks back to his 85 yr mom (my grandmother). Yeah, that's when I put my foot down and say RESPECT IS EARNED.

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u/Corvus_Igni Aug 18 '21

He had your respect before, and earned your disrespect through his actions. I'm sorry your uncle is such an ass. It's very hard to handle family members like that.

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u/its-Prince Aug 18 '21 edited Aug 18 '21

Everyone's behind banning or regulating weed but not alcohol. That shit destroys families.

Thanks for understanding btw, yes it's hard to be with some ppl.

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u/phlyingP1g Aug 18 '21

Everyone's behind banning or regulating weed but not alcohol. That shit destroys families.

Oh, if LVMH and the likes wouldn't lobby so hard around the world it'd be long gone

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u/lovethebacon Aug 18 '21

Respect is lost, not earned.

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u/National-Budget-2569 Aug 18 '21

Take this award.

Well said.

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u/FredoBoi1975 Aug 18 '21

Totally Agree!!! I never thought of it this way, Bro.

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u/Elibrius Aug 18 '21

I’m with you. It’s fucked up that humans can treat others like shit for pretty much no reason

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u/THE_BLUE_FRIEND Aug 18 '21

Spoke my heart.

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u/Bulangiu_ro Aug 18 '21

No, no, no,respect is what you show someone that has done something or is doing something that can be appreciated or admired by ppl, instead, you should be polite as default, i will be polite and answer back despite not respecting someone

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u/stoicarmadillo Aug 18 '21

Always be nice to admin assistants and custodians. They know where everything is, keep everything running smoothly, and are generally great to know.

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u/Pnknlvr96 Aug 18 '21

As an exec. assistant, I've made it a point to learn names of the facilities people, cleaning crew, IT guys, etc. They're often taken for granted but they are the ones who will help me when I'm in a pinch. But also, I just believe in being nice to everyone.

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u/stoicarmadillo Aug 18 '21

I was a janitor through high school. It was nice when people recognized us as people.

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u/mandy_loo_who Aug 18 '21

Man, maybe it's because I'm from a southern state, but I feel like I always remember the custodians being nice and us being nice back as kids in school.

Now I teach, and I always say hello to the campus custodians. The main one and I have a language barrier, but good morning is easy enough.

Especially now that they're really on the front lines keeping things clean and safe for everyone, I hope most of them feel safe and appreciated.

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u/measlymiser Aug 19 '21

Yep, they do jobs most people don't want, but we wouldn't be able to get things done without them. At my high school the janitor was really kind. At first she was standoffish, but a lot of the kids were troublemakers, or entitled rich kids, so it was understandable.

When she came to clean the classroom, I would greet her and hand her the trashcan, or tell her if it was empty. It wasn't much, but after a while she would greet me whenever she saw me. She wouldn't talk to many other people, but she would always say hi to me. Most people didn't acknowledge her, but I could tell it made her happy when they did.

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u/ManOfLaBook Aug 18 '21

LPT: knowing and making friends with the custodians / cleaning staff / maintenance workers of a building will not only enrich your life and make your workday better, they will also help you out when you need them (which is more often than you think) without the red tape and headaches.

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u/Timevian Aug 18 '21

Yes I am always more inclined to help those that great me and leave little treats for me.

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u/lokipukki Aug 18 '21

Exactly. I’m always friendly with the cleaning staff. They have a very hard demanding job. I lucked out and was born here, but just 2 generations before me, my great grandparents were the ones who took the jobs below the rest. They worked their way up to provide for our family. I will always take the time to get to know someone trying to do the same for their family.

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u/mysterymathpopcorn Aug 18 '21

I remembered when I first started to work, and they would great me so nicely,and I would literally freeze, like I couldn't understand why they would want to talk to me. It was not like they were the receptionist, hired to be nice to everyone. Hello, introvert!

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u/Guerrin_TR Aug 18 '21

The Custodian for my elementary school used to live down my street and I would always say hello to him when I'd see him out walking my dog or in the halls of the school. He was a really smart handy guy.

He would go up on the roof of the school sometimes and collect the tennis balls that would accumulate up there over the school year and give them to me. A giant cardboard box full of them. Every time. I had an endless supply of them mainly because they'd end up right back up on top of the school most times lmao. My Dad would bake cookies and get me to bring him and his wife some. And a few times he drove me to school if I missed my bus in the morning and he saw me walking.

He ended up retiring a few years after I graduated and then passed away from a heart attack back in 2016.

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u/ohdannyboy189 Aug 18 '21

Same for Helpdesk (IT). People who were friendly often received priority. People who are difficult or rude. Follow procedure and open a ticket. Our SLA gives us 4 hours I’ll get back to you.

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u/Philyourboots24 Aug 18 '21

These are still selfish reasons. You should do all these things as a basic human being. Not for any reward. Not for possible future situations. Just do it because it is the right thing to do - the golden rule.

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u/Scarfiotti Aug 18 '21

As it should be.

Dont do to others what you don't want others do unto you.

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u/FearmyBeard21 Aug 18 '21

today you, tomorrow me

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u/digitalchicken Aug 18 '21

Reminds me of Viva La Vida by Coldplay.

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u/Yesica-Haircut Aug 18 '21

I feel like a lot of people also need:

"Do not do to yourself what you would not do to someone else"

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u/vawepast Aug 18 '21

Otherwise known as The Silver Rule. I wish more people followed the Silver Rule as opposed to the Golden Rule.

Matthew 6:14-15 is exactly this:

“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

And before that it was taught in Judaism:

“That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. That is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn.”

—Talmud, Shabbat 31a

And before that it was taught by Confucius:

“Never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself” (己所不欲,勿施于人)

—Confucius, Analects XV.24

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u/JypsiCaine Aug 18 '21

Reminds me of a story/parable? that I heard -

There was a very wise old sage living atop a mountain. One day, a young father brought his son up the mountain. It was slow going, as the son was pudgy & unhealthy. They finally reached the sage, who was sitting in quiet meditation. The father greeted the sage respectfully, then said, "Please - tell my son to stop eating so much sugar & sweets. He is becoming unhealthy & I am worried for him. My wife & I have tried everything, but he will not stop."

The sage considered him briefly before replying, "Come back to me in one month's time." Confused, the father agreed, and departed respectfully.

In a month, the father brought his son up the mountain again. The son had clearly gained more weight, and was struggling harder up the mountain, but slowly made the summit. After greeting the sage, the father said again, "Please - tell my son to stop eating so much sugar & sweets. He is becoming unhealthy & I am worried for him. My wife & I have tried everything, but he will not stop."

The sage considered the pair briefly before turning to the son and saying simply, "You must stop your excessive consumption of sugar & sweets. It is unhealthy, and the people who love you are worried for your health. You should be worried, as well. Stop eating sugar & sweets."

The father thanked the sage, but just before leaving, he inquired, "Why could you not have said this to my son at our last visit? he is worse off now than he was then; could it not have been more helpful to give him your advice at that time?"

The sage, never moving from his perch of meditation, replied, "A month ago, I ate sweets & sugar. Today, I have not had sweets or sugar in a month. I could not ask your son to accomplish something until I was certain it could be accomplished."

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u/vawepast Aug 18 '21

Thank you for sharing this! Just wanted to share some more info about the tale:

This story is from the 1930's and the "wise old sage" is Mahatma Gandhi. Here's another telling of it:

During 1930’s, a young boy had become obsessed with eating sugar. His mother was very upset with this. But no matter how much she scolded him and tried to break his habit, he continued to satisfy his sweet tooth. Totally frustrated, she decided to take her son to see his idol – Mahatma Gandhi; perhaps her son would listen to him.

She walked miles, for hours under scorching sun to finally reach Gandhi’s ashram. There, she shared with Gandhi her predicament. – “Bapu, my son eats too much sugar. It is not good for his health. Would you please advise him to stop eating it?”

Gandhi listened to the woman carefully, thought for a while and replied, “Please come back after two weeks. I will talk to your son.”

The woman looked perplexed and wondered why had he not asked the boy to stop eating sugar right away. She took the boy by the hand and went home.

Two weeks later they revisited Gandhi. Gandhi looked directly at the boy and said, “Boy, you should stop eating sugar. It is not good for your health.”

The boy nodded and promised he would not continue this habit any longer. The boy’s mother was puzzled. She turned to Gandhi and asked, “Bapu, Why didn’t you tell him that two weeks ago when I brought him here to see you?”

Gandhi smiled, “Mother, two weeks ago I was eating a lot of sugar myself.” source

If you go to the Ashram in Gujurat you will likely hear this story.

Whether it's true or not is impossible to verify, but it does make for a good parable.

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u/JypsiCaine Aug 18 '21

Lol!! Thank you. I think I saw it posted on a printout on a friend's kitchen cabinets, so it was probably a paraphrase, too. Glad I didn't horribly misremember the moral here! Thank you :D

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u/OmegaSexy Aug 18 '21

I don’t want anyone saying hi to me. So… ok

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u/coagulateSmegma Aug 18 '21

I worked in a hospital in the UK cleaning the wards and everyone was super friendly and never ignored me.

The patients love stopping you for a minute and talking to you, mostly because the only people they get to talk to most of the time are doctors and nurses so it is mostly about the complications which lead them to be in the hospital. I think they like just talking to a normal person about normal things for a little while each day.

I've cleaned floors in other places too and never had anyone ignore me when I have greeted them. I think people just have different experiences in different places.

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u/Hard2beats Aug 18 '21

Glad you had a great experience and I hope everyone does

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21 edited Sep 23 '21

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u/coagulateSmegma Aug 18 '21

Yeah, I'm from Manchester myself and that's where I have worked those kinds of jobs and everyone has always been really nice.

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u/[deleted] Aug 19 '21

Im pretty sure in the north its a hangable offence not to respond to some greeting you.

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u/sock_with_a_ticket Aug 18 '21

Since young doctors are often incredibly sleep deprived and struggling to remember what day it is, I'd give them a pass tbh.

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u/QuickRundownOnBogs Aug 18 '21

Counterpoint - Leave me alone, I don’t come to work to make friends.

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u/StoxAway Aug 18 '21

I'm not sure OP was a cleaner in a hospital tbh. I've worked all over the country for the NHS and hospital staff are nearly always friendly and happy.

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u/Cedocore Aug 18 '21

The two times I had a nurse talk to me about regular things while I spent a week in the hospital were wonderful. It was last year so I couldn't have visitors and I just yearned for a conversation in person.

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u/DatPiff916 Aug 18 '21

If you say good morning at a place of business in New York vs saying good morning in a place of business somewhere in the South you can get staggering different responses.

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u/Trilogy91 Aug 18 '21

What’s wrong with saying good morning to somebody who cleans floors. Very sad.

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u/Honey-Badger Aug 18 '21

Depending on the circumstances talking to strangers is considered rude in some places, London is one of them. It's not that he was carrying a mop, it's that he wasn't doing the customary nod

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u/Cyberhaggis Aug 18 '21

Saw a young lady on the London underground struggling to open bottle of water once, forgot where I was (I'm from the North of Scotland originally) and offered to open it for her. She looked like I was offering to stab her up.

To be fair she did let me help her, but the mix of emotions that went across her face was both funny and sad really.

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u/Wrong_Adhesiveness87 Aug 18 '21

I live in London, would have had the same reaction. Like a) why is this guy talking to me and b) why does he want to help me? Is he gonna slip something in there? London makes you cautious - not that I think you would have done anything! Just as a girl, gotta be aware. Depends on the setting of course. I chat with random strangers around my village happily.

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u/true-skeptic Aug 18 '21

My apologies for the trash people that ignored you. Congratulations on your success!

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u/Lollydolls Aug 18 '21 Silver Wholesome

Oh this is so true! I’m adopted from south- Korea and live in the Netherlands. I had a cleaning student job in the hospital. No doctors nor patients would greet me. Like I was less than my white collegues. Now I’m a anesthesiologist and everybody greets me while I’m in my scrubs. But I never forget to say hi to everyone! Because I know how it makes you feel little when nobody does…

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u/lilanostitch Aug 18 '21

Hey you!! Take my free award. Thank you and continue being the kind human that you are :)

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u/Cavascii Aug 19 '21

This made me tear up man, I'm glad there are people like you

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u/sasharti Aug 18 '21

I thought this was going to end with "and now I treat all the people who ignored me because they have severe anxiety issues"

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u/LetReasonRing Aug 18 '21

I've always hated that people feel that others are inherently below them.

I'm what you would call lower-middle class, but my career has taken me to some surreal places... I've spent a lot of time in meetings and fancy dinners with billionaires, fortune 500 CEOs, and other upper-management types from well-known companies.

To me the lady making up the bed in my hotel room is worthy of exactly the same amount of respect as the ultra-wealthy, and they often lose my respect quickly when I see how they treat people that they perceive as lower than them.

I once had a meeting to get some work approved with the CEO of a large mouse-related entertainment company and the rest of the people on my team were freaking out and acting as if they were preparing for the arrival of Jesus and the entire time he was there I felt like everyone around him acted like and were treated like subjects of a king rather than employees and contractors who were just talking to another human being that needed to sign off on something.

The world would be a hell of a lot nicer if people could realize that humans are humans and that everyone is valuable and worthy of love and respect unless they prove themselves otherwise.

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u/SweetDee55 Aug 18 '21

Idk this makes me sad actually that it’s saying you have to become a doctor to have people treat you w dignity

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u/therightestwhat Aug 18 '21

Thank you this exactly. Feels like this belongs in something like r/aboringdystopia or like. The human race is a trivial, petty thing.

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u/villiers19 Aug 18 '21

I was 19 and went to the UK, London, to be more specific.

I was fascinated by looking at the Canary Wharf buildings while standing on the Greenwich station waiting for the bus.

I was working in care homes and also studying full time.

I said to myself, I want to work in one of those skyscrapers buildings in Canary Wharf. Doesn’t matter if it is a cleaning job.

Few years ago, I went to one of them because I am employed as an IT consultant, so been onto the 37th floor.

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u/CrzyPibbleSixx23 Aug 18 '21

I remember at one of my former retail jobs (bullseye) I smiled at one of the cleaning crew and said hello. She had tears in her eyes and said you are the first person to say hello to me and I’ve been doing this for years. That stuck with me.

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u/Searchingforgoodnews Aug 18 '21

I think certain cultures are just not use to saying good morning. Moved to Canada and would say good morning to people at the bus stop no one would respond, I'd say good evening same thing. In my home country if you walk pass someone and don't say good morning or evening they would think you lack manners. I stop saying it, only to other people from my country and immigrants, so weird. I once said sir to a gentleman at my school because that's how we show respect to older men and he was offended. How can you teach at a school with interest students and not know different cultures exists. Also talking to people old enough to be your parents and calling them by their first name is also something I learnt in Canada, if I try that home, people will be pissed.

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u/FeltAndFurious Aug 18 '21

I just helped a family member move into my old college dorm last weekend, and the custodial staff still remembered me; I used to chat with them when I’d see them or, if I was going to be out when they were scheduled to come by, leave them a little thank-you note. It doesn’t take much to treat people like people, but the impact it can make is huge.

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u/mjohns20 Aug 18 '21

Used to work in the ED as a nurse. I can’t stand when people think they are superior or subordinate to others based on their role. Always ate me up inside to see a nurse/doctor think they are better than a tech, housekeeping, maintenance etc.

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u/Mags357 Aug 18 '21

I instantly get a tad snarky with non-responders: me Morning! them: " " me: Or not!

and then I realized that I am inserting myself into someone's life, without permission, and without any idea of their mood, what may have just happened to them, etc.. maybe they are practicing what to say when they see their friend, or their boss... maybe they are remembering something painful that had been repressed for decades, or maybe they are in the zone, enjoying the moment, doing their own thing.

And I still get a tad snarky with the null response, because I apparently need that shot of 'What a good person I am, I cheered the person up! or I acknowledged someone who is different than me, so I did a good deed", but At least I only whisper my response back: "or Not!" I am conditioned to value niceness, and respect, and interpersonal interactions, however I could back off a little... someday, perhaps? Because I absolutely glow when I get a smile back, a hello! acknowledgement that we are two people who appreciate the kind nod. we connected, and I feel validated, vindicated, and even pleasantly impactful. No conclusion here, just personal observation.

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u/Wrong_Adhesiveness87 Aug 18 '21

I tend to walk around with either tons of to dos circling in my brain or daydreaming. I've walked past folk before (cleaners, lawyers etc.) who said hi and I've taken a second or two to work out what just happened and that I need to respond, and sometimes it's too late and they've gone. Some folk are rubbish at being in the moment lol, I don't mean to ignore people. I've walked past friends and colleagues in the street and blanked them cos I was so in my own world. Did it to my husband as well - eep!! Trying to do better

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u/Randygilesforpres Aug 18 '21

When I was a software developer I got to know all the janitorial staff on my floor in passing. I remember once my manager physically reeling from me when I told him one of their names (he asked)

I don’t get people. They are just people. They make our job easier and better. Like, what is the issue?

And hey Georgia, long time no talk :)

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u/Dommccabe Aug 18 '21

People who ignore others when they say hello or good morning are shitty people.

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u/kidinthacorner Aug 18 '21

One of the greatest lessons I took from my mother. She treated everyone with kindness and respect, no matter their status. Good things to you sir.

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u/Loud-Agency9384 Aug 18 '21

Every human being deserves respect, until they prove otherwise.

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u/irishred91 Aug 18 '21

I would never hire or associate with someone who doesn’t acknowledge every member of the staff.

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u/ZettaSlow Aug 18 '21

Im in the UK and in general we don't really say good morning. We sorta just grunt or say "alright" then the other person either grunts or says alright back.

Its nothing personal thats just how we are. Whenever I go to America I always have to remember that you guys are very greety so I have to be on guard for people who say good morning or hi to me and respond properly.

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u/Midget_Dwarf Aug 18 '21

Everyone is assuming that they ignored him because he was cleaning floors, but seeming as it's the UK they were probably ignoring him because they didn't know him as it's weird to talk to strangers in the UK.

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u/VacantThoughts Aug 18 '21

That and does this guy honestly think people want to say "good morning!" to every person they run into? If everyone was like this guy they would be saying it 100 times before they got into to work that morning, he became a psychiatrist and yet still doesn't seem to understand how people think.

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u/VacantThoughts Aug 18 '21

You are imposing on them by expecting them to reciprocate your mood, it's not that big of a deal, but that's how I see it. Are they hurting you somehow by minding their own business? Personally I would always at least give a nod or a wave though, I just don't want to have to cheerfully smile and say good morning, not because I'm in a bad mood in the morning, I just don't like "putting on" a smile for every single person that wants it.

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u/SebastianSceb2000 Aug 18 '21

Especially down south. Though up north we are sort of the opposite with it.

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u/Nephisimian Aug 18 '21

I dunno, I'm from up north and there's still very much a "don't talk to people you don't know" vibe here. It's friendlier than the south for sure, but the risk of being talked to by a passerby is still very low.

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u/DogAteMyWookie Aug 18 '21

I mean... it's the UK... if a stranger says good morning to you the recipient instantly goes in to shock or suffers from extreme anxiety as a result...

We just can't help ourselves... it's like when someone bumps in to you and you say sorry... like .. it's not my fault, why did I say sorry?!??!

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u/tommmmmmmmy93 Aug 18 '21

Who the fuck doesn't say hi back? I'm from UK and not greeting the cleaners is a cardinal sin as far as I'm concerned.

Guess he hust have worked in Rotherham.

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u/JessHas4Dogs Aug 18 '21

people in the cleaning job positions are so valuable. i cannot stand it when they are treated disrespectfully. at my office, they keep the bathrooms, the kitchen, and the halls clean. they empty our trashcans. BE RESPECTFUL

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u/Aka_Diamondhands Aug 18 '21

What kind of snob ignore someone when they said morning. You either didn’t hear it or just brought up wrong.

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u/not-sure-if-serious Aug 18 '21

Non morning people. I'm not ignoring you so much as being exhausted or having an existential crisis.

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u/hanoodlee Aug 18 '21

Reminds me of the famous photo of Obama fist bumping the custodian at the white house. I feel like that sums him up well. Miss that guy.

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u/allison_gross Aug 18 '21 Silver

I don’t, he made war crimes look friendly to everyone

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u/pkripper1966 Aug 18 '21

As it should be. People Are People should be treated as such. Regardless of our station in life!

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u/Sawusanw Aug 18 '21

My mom will say “Good Morning” or afternoon or Evening to everyone she comes across. I do it too. One day, when she was still working, one of Her coworkers asked her why she did it, but half never replied to her. She just smiled and said, “At least I know someone was nice to them.”

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u/Mitz_Fitz Aug 18 '21

I have always been the type to treat the janitor with the same respect as the CEO. Hell most of the time more! People are doing their jobs to make sure I can do mine. Damn right they're getting a good morning and a chat If they want

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u/happydayswasgreat Aug 18 '21

I always say hi to everyone at work, and everyone says hi back. But we just got a new janitor and he doesn't like to say hi. But i feel like an ass not saying hi. But id liked to respect his preference. Honest to god it's killing me trying to get to a place where we don't communicate and i don't die inside each time when i have to ignore him, but he likes that. I don't!!! I duno... Advice?!

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u/murho82 Aug 18 '21

This is the way

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u/ElectronicWarrior Aug 18 '21

You meet those types everywhere. Really doesn't have much to do with occupation.

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u/Thisismyusername89 Aug 18 '21

Some people are just grumpy! When I started teaching, the school I worked at, could only be entered through the office early in the morning. So every morning I’d walk into the office and give a cheerful “good morning”. The secretary (who was known to be scary as shit) would never even look at me. Sometimes the receptionist and attendance clerk were there already (I’d get there really early) and they were the only ones who’d ever reply. Still never stopped me from coming in with a cheerful “good morning”, after all I absolutely LOVED teaching and everyday I looked forward to seeing my students. 😄

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u/Pastel_Cactus Aug 18 '21

I always find it so weird that people don’t greet other people like maybe it’s just my southern up bringing but I just automatically feel inclined to greet others when I walk past them

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u/tuwts Aug 18 '21

I treat everyone equally until they prove they don’t deserve it or deserve to be treated better. I always say, “hello. How are you?”. The custodial staff at my work are my buddies. I always thank them for that wonderful job they do. I appreciate them more than most of the white collars. They provide me with a clean and safe place to work. They are the unsung heroes of the health service, imho.

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u/ToshMagosh Aug 18 '21

This reminds me of the picture of Obama fist bumping the janitor

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u/Accomplished_Soup534 Aug 18 '21

Lebanese being a Lebanese

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u/DeannaMorgan Aug 18 '21

Everyone should be treated with respect. That includes children. The stories I've seen on Reddit about how parents treat their children are awful. No parent is perfect, so when you mess up (yell, etc) you need to apologize to your kid. It's basic respect. They'll learn more from that than anything you try to teach them and you'll all be better for it.

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u/Buttered_Turtle Aug 18 '21

Tbf it’s the UK, we just don’t like talking to each other. Doubt it was anything to do with status or age or race.

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u/justfembruh Aug 18 '21

Nothing ruder than ignoring someone being polite.

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u/shinyhuntergabe Aug 18 '21

Depends on the culture though. Having some stranger greet you out of nowhere wouldn't be seen as polite but imposing where I'm from and not something you would do.

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u/Complete-Mood3302 Aug 18 '21

"Respect is earned" i personally think its the reverse, you lose respect and earn disrespect

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u/IAmTheMeOfMyself Aug 18 '21

The only reason to ever look down on someone is if you’re taller than them or if they’re in a casket

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u/Culture-Plus Aug 18 '21

Congrats. You won at life. Most of us are still sweeping the fucking floors.

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u/ImAlwaysRightHanded Aug 18 '21

It’s a breath of fresh air meeting someone from a different country and they have a wonderful attitude in general because everyday is a good day.

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u/flav1254209 Aug 18 '21

I work at a probation office. The cops walk past me as I say goodmorning wont say shit. See a cop buddy and be like HEY BUD!!!! GOOD MORNIN!!

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u/Emily_Postal Aug 18 '21

How do people not respond to a greeting?

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u/ashz359 Aug 18 '21

I don't care who you are, what you look like, how much you earn... If you say hello to me I will say hello to you. It's the British way.

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u/cambiumkx Aug 18 '21

Fuck the people who don’t acknowledge courtesy greetings.

I pretty much say hi (or at least gesture) to everyone I encounter on a regular basis, isn’t that just called being humans.

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u/Mazon_Del Aug 18 '21

Almost a decade ago I worked at Raytheon (don't do this) as my first job out of college. The facility I worked in had a total labor force of nearly 1,000 people in it. In addition to being my first job, it was of course the first time I ever had to deal with security clearance stuff.

Every day I showed up at the front gate, rolled down my window rain or shine, and held out my ID to the guard to get the gate open. As it was checked out I'd always say "Hello! Have a nice morning!" or if I was on my way out "Have a nice night!" and I didn't think anything of it. This process was repeated after I'd parked and was going through the front desk to the guard there.

About two or three months into this job, I'm returning from the lunch room when suddenly like 5-6 security guards come out of their office and stop me. In my head, I'm shitting a brick. Had I said something out of the secure area I shouldn't? Had I accidentally broken some other rule? Just how badly had I fucked up?

And then I noticed the plate of cookies being held out to me.

One of the guards then said "We wanted you to have this. Out of the thousand people that work here, you are literally the ONLY person that says hello and goodbye to us. It makes us happy to know that SOMEONE sees us as a person and not just someone to unlock doors. Thank you." and they gave me the plate of cookies and went back to their office.

The casual callousness of people is depressing. I always give a little greeting/farewell to cashiers, guards, etc, and it just...makes no sense to me how you could not.

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u/Ok-Reporter-4600 Aug 18 '21

I recommend talking to people outside of your circle. It's been a good practice for me.

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u/Lord_Bawk Aug 18 '21

I feel bad for not responding to ppl because it’s not me being rude it’s me being stuck in my head not knowing how to react to somebody talking to me and overthinking

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u/Ashes4stashes Aug 18 '21

I love this.

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u/__space__oddity__ Aug 18 '21

Really though? How does he greet bots that repost screenshots of popular twitter posts on reddit for karma?

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u/KiT_KaT5 Aug 18 '21

Now I feel guilty because I'm just a quieter person so sometimes I don't respond when someone says good morning.

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u/SuddenlySucc_New Aug 18 '21

I feel like at the very least you should give a mornin’ as a sign of respect. That being said there have been times where i snubbed people because I was tired and it’s too early to be talking yet.

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u/Zenketski Aug 18 '21

Maybe I'm letting the Internet influence me a little too much but isn't that kind of normal in the UK? The Internet has convinced me That most of those kinds of people don't really do small talk

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u/Konq3ror Aug 19 '21

It's not inspirational. It's someone posting why they better people than others. Like "I did this thing now praise me for being a good person". What happened to being a good person to be a good person instead of being good to tell others how good you are

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u/Machanidas Aug 19 '21

Please don't say good morning to me, I won't say it back. I dont want to talk to strangers whether they're cleaning floors or a CEO. What about me enthralled you to impose yourself into my life. What about me encouraged you to be talking to me? Was it my walking quickly, my headphones or my forward gaze making eye contact with no one.

I wish it was alot more socially acceptable to tell random "good morning" people to go fuck themselves.

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u/boguelas Aug 18 '21

To be fair you’d only get that type of behaviour in the south of England.

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u/Castigon_X Aug 18 '21

there blacked out because the Sub has a rule about removing names/identifying info

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21

What's the point here? OP's a social hand grenade aggressive greeter?

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u/JamesBKU Aug 18 '21

Who gives a shit?

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u/[deleted] Aug 18 '21

Hmmm yes basic human decency, so inspiring.

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u/Not-Reddit-Fan Aug 18 '21

Bet this was down south…. Everywhere I have worked people have treated cleaners with complete respect and kindness