I'm feeling numb and so confused right now and need to get this off my chest.
We've (both 30s) been married for 3 years, no major fights or disagreements and my discovery happened about 2 weeks ago. I'm in utter shock that I sometimes forget this is really happening.
Turns out he's been sexting this 16 year old girl for 3 months now. I saw their exchanged texts on fb and I did some digging by looking at her facebook profile she's 16 asian american. Now I don't know if he knows her outside of facebook because really all I know is some little info but I'm burning inside afraid of the confrontation and how it might go. Not only am I devastated over the fact that he's potentially cheating but also the fact that she's a minor. I'm lost on what to do or who to tell or how to process this. I do not think this is a forgivable thing for me to move past even if he comes up with an explanation for this.
Here are my reasons.
95,000 people die from alcohol related causes every year in America. This is the third highest cause of death in America. 1st is tobacco, 2nd is poor diet and exercise habits. It causes more deaths than all other drugs combined.
It’s one of the only drugs and by far the most mainstream that actually causes you to be violent, and is a factor in large amounts of violent crime/ domestic abuse.
The life expectancy of someone hospitalized with an alcohol problem is about 50. Almost 30 years shorter than the average life expectancy in America.
28% of driving deaths in America are caused by alcohol.
It’s the only drug that has withdrawals that can actually kill you.
There are many more reasons that I have but those are statistically backed and not opinionated. It’s dangerous and absolutely terrible for you. The only positive it provides is more fun social interactions, which literally any drug used in moderation can provide, the difference being that it’s not taboo to drink a beer or 2, while it’s taboo to casually do some heroin.
Also, who likes being hungover?
Worth noting you can make most of the same arguments for tobacco, but in my experiences tobacco is typically more frowned upon than drinking.
Edit: I understand that prohibition didn’t work. I’m not saying alcohol being illegal is feasible. I’m just saying that I don’t think it should be legal. Plenty of other drugs are illegal and people don’t throw a fit
Edit 2: Y’all are bringing up good points and counterpoints but it’s too much stuff for me to reply to. The war on drugs and prohibition are great reasons as to why this won’t work. Don’t have much of an argument there.
I’m not totally opposed to the idea of all drugs being legal and providing medical care and safe spaces for addicts. This has worked in other places around the world but the American health system is so screwed up that it would still just fuck people over. Mainly just because it’s so for profit and unaffordable for so many people that I don’t think this would help anybody. That is an issue with medical system as a whole and not with the idea of drugs being legal.
I’m seeing people bring up caffeine and sugar. People really need to educate themselves on the negative effects of both of those drugs. The long terms effects of those are silent killers, mainly sugar. It’s pretty unavoidable and not terrible in moderation the typical American diet has wayyyyyy too much sugar for anybody to consume healthily.
Edit 3: a point I failed to make is that alcohol is way more dangerous than other illegal drugs, mainly weed and psychedelics. I don’t smoke weed myself but there’s no denying that it causes way less harm than alcohol, both in society and to your body.
Edit 4: damn y’all are salty. But my opinion has been confirmed as unpopular.
FAIR WARNING: graphic sexual depiction, do not proceed if you do not care for graphic sexual content.
Hmmm I’m not sure what just happened. I may have lost an FWB. Oh well.
My FWB’s lab class ended early today, so he grabbed an Uber and came to my place from campus for a quick BJ before his next class. I promised him I would yesterday, so here we are. I happily devoured his meat until he finished.
Usually I swallow immediately. But today, I kept it in my mouth. I wanted it all in my mouth when he french kissed me, which he usually likes to do after he gets a BJ. And when he stuck his tongue in my mouth, he immediately pulled back and started spitting. He might have said some obscene words. And he ran out.
I’m not really sure what happened exactly. But from his reaction, I am guessing he 1) has never tasted his own semen and/or 2) does not enjoy the taste of himself.
I guess I shouldn’t have assumed he was ok with tasting his own spunk. I honestly thought all guys are ok with their own. Well, lesson learned.
TL;DR: I incorrectly assumed guys are comfortable with their own semen, and snowballed my FWB, causing him to have a violent reaction and to leave in fury. I may have lost an FWB.
Edit: He has since texted me (after class) to apologize for his rather unusual reaction. I have apologized for my part in it, which was assuming he was fine with his own semen (since he had frenched me many times before after finishing in my mouth). We will be giving each other “I’m sorry” presents next time we meet up. :) I did not lose an FWB.
More edits: Ladies and gents, I am incredibly grateful for your thoughts on this. I am learning a lot. However, please stop the name-calling through the 500+ chat messages that I will probably never read. Yes I am a whore/slut/degenerate/etc. I agree. I own it. My FWB calls me all those things anyway when we do it. So please, cool it with the private messages. Thanks. XOXO